I'm so sorry for the loss of your wife. Your world has been turned upside down. It's normal to feel lost, alone, and just plain devastated.

We all are, or have been, where you are. We're here for you anytime you need someone to talk to, and we all understand your pain.

Take care of yourself and don't be afraid to talk about any emotions you are feeling. There will always be someone here who is feeling the same way.

Peace to you,
Linda

I'm so sorry for your loss and I or I should say we, totally understand how devastating it is. At 40 years old you and your wife should be enjoying life together. I hope being with us gives you a small amount of comfort. Welcome to the group and hopefully we will get to know you better. For me, my husband died from lung cancer ten weeks after diagnosis. I was equally devastated. Sharon

My condolences for the loss of your wife. I lost my 48 yr old wife Amy last February also unexpectedly and I understand the feeling of being lost.
She was my everything and after 10 months the pain has lessened a bit but is still there daily and I don't ever seeing it ever going away completely. I am not sure if I would want it to as grief is the price we pay for love. The greater the love the greater the grief and the pain is a reminder of what I have lost.
This group has helped me in so many ways and we welcome you to come here as often as you need to if only to read what others who are further down this awful road have to offer that may give you some comfort.
Peace ~Pete

Well, you most probably are entering what will be the most difficult time of your life - it has been for me. I believe any of the men of this group would agree with me that what ever macho reservations about not crying, sobbing, wailing or talking about our feelings have got to go the wayside to get through this grief. We can't go around it, we have to go through it. So just let it happen. There is never anything abnormal about what we go through or how we do it or how long it takes - no right or wrong to any of it. Everyone is here to help you, just a bunch of wounded souls each doing our best to try and heal from complete devastation. So write and vent and express yourself if you want and when you are ready, and read a lots and lots. For me, this site has been a lifesaver. Today is 7 months since Juanita died -- and I am doing a little better everyday with setbacks a little farther apart. We all understand like no one else can because we are living this with you. ~Scott

I am so sorry for your loss.
here, you have found a bunch of hurting people who are going through the same grief as you.
I am so lost without my husband...don't know how to get through this, but people say it will get better eventually.
I wish that 'eventually' would hurry up and get here.
At least here, you can post anything, anytime, about ANY struggle and you won't be a foreigner. there are friends who understand.

Dear Garry, I am so sorry for the loss of your young wife. And all of us here at DS understand exactly how you are feeling lost without her. The grief and heartache of losing our loved one is devastating and I think the reason we are in shock and trauma the first few months is to get through this unbelievable loss. But you have come to the right place for support and understanding. Please try and take good care of your health, eat well, drink lots of water. And try and get out and walk, walk, walk, just anywhere, because it is soothing and the wind and sun (if you are in a warm climate) will make you feel a little better. Try to remember the good love and happiness you had together, it will ease and comfort you. Take care, Garry. We are all here for you and come here anytime to vent your feelings. It will help you to read about all the other stories and get to know people here and become friends too. Hugs, Nanette

I lost my husband also unexpectedly almost 4 months ago. I understand the lost feeling. Hoping for all of us peace can find us. I'm sorry for your loss.

Thank you all

I am so sorry Gerry for the loss of your wife, everything in your world has been turned upside down and inside out. Your are lost, alone, grieving. Right now honor your emotions, we have all been where you are right now, and some are at the same place you are. It wasn't that long ago for me where I was standing right where you are, we all get it here. Be kind to yourself, put yourself first, do what you feel you can, and don't apologize to any one for what you are feeling, you have the right to those feelings. Come as often as you need to, talk about anything, you won't find a better group of people than right here. Hugs. Katrina

I lost my wife 2 weeks ago and words fail me...I have my daughters and my wife's friends, and my friends to support me in this...but I still feel like a child crying in the night. Hospice has provided a counselor to work with me weekly. I hope you will turn to some helpers who know how to help you work through this...I am told that it takes one year for every five years you were together to heal....so it will be a long road paved with many tears. Bless you on your journey...May you find peace and comfort tonight...

So sorry for your loss. I lost my husband unexpectedly 5 months ago at 41 years old. Our worlds are turned upside down and inside out. I can say I thought I was doing okay a month ago with the breakdowns becoming less frequent and then Thanksgiving day marked the 5 month mark. I realized that day I had so many wonderful memories to be thankful for but was also mad that there are no more to be made. I feel like I am lost in so many ways...I don't even know what I want to be when I grow up..lol! And here comes Christmas Oh Boy!!
Although I haven't written on here a lot lately while I try to figure my own heart out, I do visit to just find comfort from the words of the others. It really is comforting when we need it most.

So welcome and I hope you find the same comfort from knowing someone understands whatever your feeling or doing each step of the way.

I am so sorry for the loss of your wife. Nobody wants to be a member of this "club" but it is so helpful to communicate with others who know exactly what you are feeling. My husband died unexpectedly two months ago shortly after we celebrated our 38th wedding anniversary. Everything is so different now. The sadness can be overwhelming at times, but somehow this group makes it a little less painful.

Hugs to you,
Ruth

My heart goes out to you, for the passing of your wife. My husband died in a freak accident, and I can't imagine what you must be feeling. Just know your not alone, and feel free to express yourself anytime. hugs carla