I'm so sorry for your loss. 6 months, so many times, hits hard again. I'm not sure why this happens, but, I think more of the shock has worn off and the fog is lifting which causes the loneliness to hit even harder. Things will get easier as time goes by, just takes time for your heart to adjust.
Hugs, Joely

Thank you for being here and being so understanding,. I will start with a grief counselor next week. m

So sorry for your loss. I'm a 3 1/2 months and hope that when I get to 6 months, I'm feeling more at peace and resigned to the fact that my husband is not coming back and I have to help myself live with hope. I'm glad you are going to a grief counselor. I've been helped greatly by going to one for the past 2 months. I'm being patient and giving myself time to heal. I know that the first year will be the toughest and I just have to live through it the best way I can and as Joely says "takes time for the heart to adjust". My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hugs, Connie

It IS a tragedy. I lost my husband of 23 years three weeks ago. We only really had each other. My family is spread out all in different States and it took them days to get to me after Alan died. He had no family really and what there is are in Australia and England.

I can only wish you some semblance of peace and let you know we understand. No words, no hope, no prayer can bring our beloved back. I thank God that I found this forum. They've saved my sanity more than they know. I am still desperate but I come here often and hope you will too, Dreamer.

The first six months for me was a waffle dance. Waffle up, and then waffle right back down. Determined to make it, and not let the grief bring me down, and then falling HARD into the YELLING at the sky to bring my husband BACK!!!

Your mind does know he is gone, but your HEART ?!?!? FAR from it. No, he will never be back in the sence of "Hon I'm home, or "what's for dinner?" But he really isn't gone. He can never be gone. He's inside of you. Inside your heart, and inside your memories. He lives there, and you can pull him out anytime you need him.

I hope your pain lessens a little in the months to come, and all I can say is that we understand, and are HERE for you anytime you need us. HE is there for you too, right inside your heart.

HUG to you, and hopes for some peace in your day today

Diane

One (((dreamer371))) to another...it's good to have a supportive family. I am blessed that way myself, but they are no substitute for those warm, loving arms around me and the gentle teasing, just for openers. On the 22nd it will be 2 months for me but it already feels like an eternity.

I've been in a low spot for several days, but I know the roller coaster will pick me up and hurl me to the top soon so I can begin that dive again. We will never get over what has happened to us, and although we will never see or hear them again in this lifetime, I believe a huge part of them is still with us...after 48 years how could Vern not still be with me.

You have come to a good place and the comfort and understanding here, combined with your counseling and your supportive family, should give you a softer way to look at what has happened. Right now, just go with the flow. I have days when I just weep a little throughout the day, but there are other days when all I do is cry...the ugly cry! I'm counting on the fact that I am better right now than I was a month ago, and hoping that a month from now I will be a smidgen better than I am now.

Until then, I'll keep riding that roller-coaster, as I imagine you are doing, and wishing for his voice, his touch, his presence, but know ing that will never be again. That's why I come here, thanks to my daughter. Here I find solace, comfort, understanding and lots and lots of wisdom from people who are exactly where I am, whether they are a few weeks into this or years ahead of me. Use this place...it's a blessing...and take care of you. (((((dreamer371)))))

Hugs...Marilyn

I'm six months exactly tomorrow at 6:27pm and still can't go through photos. It's been hitting me harder this week than usual too. There's no other way to say it except it sucks... It's even harder that we see everyone else continuing to move forward, but in many ways we can't. All of her friends are doing their parties, family excited about the holidays and we're stuck in the fog and grief. My grief class through hospice helps as does a pill called Deprex for depression and crying, but it's still here. Since I can't have her back physically here on earth, I just want to wake up and its past Feb 14... the holidays done and three more months of grief behind me. Dreamer371, good luck with counseling and coping. I wish you the best.

Somehow it hits us at 6 months and its as if the fog is clearing, the numbness and denial is over. You have to accept he is not coming back and you feel down. I am now in my 8th month and I am feeling more and more down. I think this is just a part of our journey and we will overcome this too and the pain will decrease.

May God bless you

Maria

6 months is a hard time, no doubt about it.