Yes it does, we just take it a moment at a time. It's so hard and we think we are all alone, but on here we all know how you feel. Every night I write a letter to Johnny, I tell him about my day, my rough times, and even when I get angry that he left me here after such a brief time together.
I just found his place a few days ago and it gives me hope. I wake up each day thankful for the time that I did get to spend with Johnny, and thankful that God gave another day to try to be a blessing to others,, I hope that you will think of me as a friend and it will be easier since we don't actually know each other, but each know how the other feels. I will pray for you. I hope you get to being better just a moment at a time.
Sometimes I tell myself that I can't do this one day at a time, to me just moments at a time work better. What ever works, just don't feel alone. Debbie

Oh my- my husband was also Johnny. I go to the cemetery and talk to him and for a tiny moment I feel like I'm communicating with him. But then it all seems emptier than ever. I welcome you as my friend and thank you.

Dear Best, I am so truly sorry for your loss. You have come to a wonderful site. The people here all ' get" what you are going through. I am at a little over four months since my husband passed and I certainly feel your pain. What do you do now. You grieve. It is an agonizing journey with no time limits and lots of peaks and valleys. Does it get better, ever so gently yes it does. Please come here often, we all belong to group though we didn't want to. There are many with years behind them, some in the same time frame and unfortunately there will be new members in the future. I came here daily,if not many times a day at first. I thought I was losing my mind. The love, compassion and support I received was amazing. This site was my lifeling. Please know we all care! Hugs and Love, Michele

Whoops,meant this site was my Lifeline! Michele

I am very sorry for your loss, it is one day at a time allowing the grief to happen when it needs too. I have discovered that most people don't understand what we go through, here everyone does and it has been my life line. I lost my husband in May, the first month or two are just a blur to me, surviving moment by moment. If I have any advice to offer it would be to do what feels right for you at the moment, no one knows you better than you. You are not alone here! Love and hugs. Katrina

I'm glad I found this group. I went from being in the caregiver's group to this group. I still talk to the caregiver's people because I feel friendship there too. Its only been 4 weeks since I lost my husband. I'm so glad I have a job to go to. I think I'd be put into a mental facility without this job. Weekends are hard. I'm trying to keep busy doing all the things I couldn't do and let go because I was taking care of my husband. I have three labs too that keep me going and need me. Its lonely though and its tough. I keep reading that it will get better and I'm hoping and praying it will. - hugs Arlene

Well, right now you just need to take care of yourself and get through each day...minute by minute, hour by hour. It's not easy. At six weeks I mostly laid on my couch, covered with a soft blanket, and grieved. I did not feel like being around other people.

The days passed and eventually I got up and started doing little things like keeping my house clean, working in my yard and walking. A little at a time because grieving is exhausting. Don't rush yourself.

You will eventually have some better days along with the hard days. People who have been here longer than I have assure me it does get better, and I believe them.

I'm so sorry about your husband. We all understand your pain and we're all here for you.

Linda

Yes Best, you couldn't ask for a better place to be right now than amongst all these loving and hurting people each looking out for the other. I agree with all that has been said here to you. Welcome, and don't be afraid to open up. Writing seems to help all of us. God bless you ~ Scott

Best, coming to this site is a great first step....I wish I would have looked for a support group when I lost my wife to cancer 21 years ago. She was only 26years old. Like you, I was lost. My future was gone. I was resigned that I would live the rest of the long life ahead of me alone. Today, 21 years later, I realize how selfish that would have been...2 beautiful, innocent little girls would have never been born had I stuck to my plan. Take the time you need. Time doesn't heal all wounds, but it really does make dealing with them a little easier....and it will take time. But keep the faith Best....I did, and unbelievable, I found happiness again....but you have to allow yourself to turn the page --- when you're ready :)

Oh, if there were only easy answers to give to you, but you are still in the early stages of a unwanted journey. At 6 weeks I also felt alone and hopeless & numb. No matter which way you turn their gone.

It is now 16months & as time has gone bye, it has eased somewhat.
The big void will always be there & I do believe you just have to
draw strength from yourself & know that you husband would not want you to be sad.

Take care JoAnn

"What do you do now?" You live......one moment at a time.

The tears will come, the pain will seem as if it's everywhere, in everything.

I still tear-up and long for my man and it's been over 2 years. Give yourself time. Be kind to you!

Warmly,
Roz