I was at that point so I just use the term my late husband. I lost my husband in April 2013. I use to hate using the terms lost and passed so I just used late husband. How are your days going? We are here to help you though the tough part of grieving and also though the days you do not feel so great.

Mark died on 4-14-13' the day after our our granddaughter's 4th birthday. Krystel was his reason for living in many ways. It wasn't until today that the 14th has any kind of meaning to me.




Kinda, Sorta



Hope y'all understand, at least somewhat.

Mini - you know different people have different reactions to the way the death of a loved one is expressed. Personally I used lost, died and passed interchangeably ( late just isn't in my list of words I would use ). However if I am trying to be gentle with someone who is really distraught I will use passed or lost.

My wife died in May 2013 after a 10 year fight with cancer. My daughter was killed in an auto accident 17 years ago when she was 17. I was lucky to find this site three months after my wife died so I found it very helpful for suggestions and friendship.

Hopefully you have made it through the rough parts already.

Bob

Mimi,

I am sorry for your loss. My husband died suddenly, unexpectedly on June 22, 2013. He was 42. I usually just say 'died' unless I feel the person I am talking to is upset and then I say 'passed'. The sad truth is he died so that is what I say.

Hugs to you.

Hi There and welcome. I found this site just late last year. I find talking about my issues to other widows/widowers helps. I also like reading the posts that are written. There are some interesting topics, and some interesting advice given by those have been through it all. I wish I would of know about this forum when my husband 1st pasted on.

I am sorry for your loss. My husband died last Feb 11. I found this site right away, and has been the only help I have received. Without them, I would never have made it this far. We are here for each other. To help, and be helped. Hang in there. We are all in this boat together.
Sandee

My husband died a year ago on 10th February. Earlier on, someone said to me that I should use the term "passed away", less harsh. Since English is not my mother tongue, I complied because I was in a total fog at the time and if I had been told to use the expression "faded away", I would have. Bob expressed the difference very well further up.

The fact remains that my husband died. This site has been very supportive and helpful to me. I would not be where I am today but for the support of my friends on DS.

Welcome to this group. All the best.

Hi Mimi. I'm Sharon and glad to have you join us. I'm sorry for your loss and understand the importance of being understood as only those who have moved through it can do. I was married to my high school sweetheart for 40 years before losing him to lung cancer in 2007. I found this site within a few months and it became my life raft in a storm. I remain here with my friends and co-community leaders cliffskat (Martha) & marjoe (Marsha) to help you navigate the site, answer questions or concerns, and mostly to support you in your grief and rebuilding your life. Looking forward to getting to know you better. Sharon

Hi Mimi: I am so very sorry that you are now by yourself. I'm glad you found this on line support group as there are a lot of good and caring people who can relate to and understand your feelings and sorrow.

It took me some time before I could say "My husband died". However, I didn't like to say "I lost my husband." After all, I did not LOSE Nick. I knew just where he was. I hadn't misplaced him

Many wishes to you for peace in your heart, emotional comfort and strength to face the challenges of each new day.

hello, I often times use the words passed away since for me he just slipped quietly out of this life into the next.

I'm so sorry for your loss. My husband died 2/12/13, Ive had hard time with the words too, hated the word widow for a long time.

This group has helped me so much.

Diane

Hi Mimi, I am so sorry this has happened to you. My wife died suddenly last July 7th. You have joined a great community. Everyone here has been so helpful and supportive to myself and my son. We will be here for you as well, anytime. I do use the phrase passed away quite a bit. I guess it is how so many people in my lifetime have referred to death. I don't think there is a right or wrong way. The important thing is that we know life and love continues without end. Comfort and prayers to you and your family.
Robert

I am sorry too, but it's easier than the" D*** "word for awhile.
I had major problems with that one.
My newest hurdle involves a class where I am not allowed to use the optional words to describe my loss. Do I leave blanks?