Joe,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, you are not alone, you have come to the right place. I lost my wife, 11 months ago unexpectedly, and understand what you are going through.

This is a long and painful journey we have been forced on, and you will find that there will be ups and downs through out it. We are all here to listen, and offer support when you need it.

This group was the best thing I could have done for myself, after loosing my wife, so many questions, so much anger, hurt, frustration and yes so many tears.

What you are going through right now is completely normal, just know that you are not alone, we are all here with you.

You will make it through this, you are still in shock and disbelief at this point and that is alright, if you need us we are here.

Dear Joe: I am so sorry for your loss. You have found a wonderful bunch here on DS who all get what a painful journey this is. Come here often for support and comfort. We all get what you are going through. Take one minute at a time and as we all say take baby steps. Sending hugs. Sue

Joe, this is so unfair. You're both so young and in the beginning of what was supposed to be a long journey of love and friendship.

LaShawn was hardly given a chance to live a life with you. I'm so sorry. It makes absolutely no sense.

Your journey of grief will be filled with ups and downs and all arounds. Each day will be different, some days easier than others. Don't be hard on yourself and give yourself time to feel every feeling and shed every tear.

Please know that we are all here for each other and know exactly what you're feeling.

Warmly,
Roz

Joe, so sorry you have to endure this but know that we are here for you as we are for each other. I am at 6 mos tomorrow in my own painful journey. My wife passed away from complications of a fall but we don't know why she was having fainting spells so her death was undetermined as well.The folks here have helped me greatly because everyone here knows exactly what we are all going through and often share bits of wisdom and comfort. I hope this groups serves you well also. ~Pete

Joe

I am so sorry for you loss. DS is a wonderful place to be that will listen, comfort and help anytime you need it. I lost my husband suddenly and unexpectedly so I know how you feel. The loss is compounded by paperwork, loose ends, unknowns, tremendous loneliness and an uncertain future. Come here often and lean on the people around you. Most of all you are allowed to feel any way you want for as long as you want and don't try to hold it in or let others tell you how or when you should feel. Every ones journey while somewhat similar is very different. Listen to yourself and take care. Prayers and thoughts coming your way

Joe,
I am so sorry that you are going through this. but, nevertheless, am glad that you did find us. because only those of us who are experiencing the same disoriented emotions can really be a comfort to each other. one of the hardest things is feeling isolated BY how we feel, even while people are trying to 'be there' for us.
At least here, others do share the same painful distresses which you feel.
It is ok to say anything here. that is the best part, for me.
You are still in very early SHOCK of sudden unexpected loss.
My husband passed in bed with me, also with no warning at all. his sounds awoke me. I am also dealing with shock.
(your situation differs from mine, in that we had 41 years together)
However, the only day which the funeral home had available for our private family viewing/goodbyes, was our anniversary. That added to shock and my sense of surreal confusion. "How can this be happening?"
My heart breaks for you, losing her on your first Anniversary.
4 months now since my husband passed, and shock is still with me.
It descends unexpectedly, with 'simple' realities of his death. Sometimes I shut down, unable to function because I don't want to run screaming from the room.
Maybe shock protects us in some way. (for me) pain is harder than the fog of shock. but it is all hard.
Try to stay in one day at a time. or one hour, or even 15 minutes if needed- when you feel overwhelmed.
Be kind to yourself.

Joe, I too am very sorry for your loss. I agree with those responses before me. This is a tough agonizing journey and you have come to a wonderfu place. The people here get it. They know the emotions we go through. Try to take one minute, one hour, one day at a time and be good to you. My heart breaks for you. Hugs, Michele

Joe,
I am so sorry, for you tragic loss.
I am glad you are here for support and encouragement. You are in. Good place....take care of yourself. Take one step at a time. We are here, if you need to vent,
Hug....Sandra

Joe sorry for your loss. While I had three years knowing there would be a end. The sudden shock of how your wife left you is hard to comprehend. Lets hope that here you will find some help to move forward.

Joe I am so sorry for your loss I cannot imagine how you are coping with a sudden loss at such a young age and the beginning of life filled with dreams. We are all here because we have lost the love of our lives some suddenly and others with chronic illness, some of us had a life filled with over 50 years of happiness and others only a year. In any event we have all ended up in this place of heartache and despair. sharing this journey with others who are sharing a similar loss has been extremely helpful. the road ahead is not an easy one and you will need all of the support you can get and the members of this group will be here to listen and help if possible. Right now it is all about you and trying to get through each day.

So sorry or your loss....You have come to the right place. Welcome!!!

Joe,

All of us whose who has joined DS, wish we had the answers for you, but those answers are elusive. One can never prepare for the time that our loved one leaves us. I for one was always afraid to think much less talk about death before I lost Larry, but looking back I wish I had. There will be a lot of what if's, but it takes time & your emotions will be all over the place, but that is okay.....Cry when or how much
you need too. We are here for you.

Take care

One day at a time Joe, I know that many of the things I frantically tried to do in the first several weeks were never completed or I forgot and had to do over...some I still need to do today. What I'm saying is many things can wait. Today is four months since I lost my husband and I am still not able to think clearly. I did join some grief support groups (2) and started grief counseling a little over a month ago. These have helped me quite a bit. kc

Thank you everyone for your responses. I'm doing my hardest to treat things day by day. Some days have been really bad, and some have just been ok.

I've gone back to work this week. It has been a welcome distraction, but she is always on my mind. Every second of every minute of every hour.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Joe.