Widows & Widowers Support Group
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After journaling the day before and having so much to be thankful for, then came yesterday !! I can't remember when I have cried so much and so hard. Almost like the day he died. Here I am going about with the everyday things in my life and trying to get my health back, and my blood pressure down. I have been nothing but sick sense he died, damnit !! I am losing my desire to do even the smallest of things around here !! Yes, perhaps change my antidepressant and get out of the house more. Getting out is the hard part, first I would have to fix my hair and put on some makeup, it was always my routine, my pride of self. I just don't have the energy to do this. I know I must make myself, right !?
I was shocked by me yesterday, crying over things that I have no control over. My youngest son was livid with me when I told him how I was feeling. He wanted to call people up who I had mentioned and tell them to never call or come by this f-ing place again ! He was going to do it !! I told him the consequences of what he wanted to do and that it would only hurt me worse. For a little guy, he was as mad as a hatter ! He and I are close, he help take care of his Dad the last month of his life and gave up his last semester at college, the one where he would graduate last May !! So he could be with and help me with Dad. He is precious but now I think he carries a sadness inside that I can almost see on his face.
Gotta stop or start the horrible crying my eyes out like yesterday.! I needed to reach out today. Let someone. somewhere know what's going on inside !! This new normal really sucks getting use to. I need to learn better coping skills but sorrow is tough, we all know that !
God bless,
Ruthann
I was shocked by me yesterday, crying over things that I have no control over. My youngest son was livid with me when I told him how I was feeling. He wanted to call people up who I had mentioned and tell them to never call or come by this f-ing place again ! He was going to do it !! I told him the consequences of what he wanted to do and that it would only hurt me worse. For a little guy, he was as mad as a hatter ! He and I are close, he help take care of his Dad the last month of his life and gave up his last semester at college, the one where he would graduate last May !! So he could be with and help me with Dad. He is precious but now I think he carries a sadness inside that I can almost see on his face.
Gotta stop or start the horrible crying my eyes out like yesterday.! I needed to reach out today. Let someone. somewhere know what's going on inside !! This new normal really sucks getting use to. I need to learn better coping skills but sorrow is tough, we all know that !
God bless,
Ruthann
I actually went shopping one day last week because i caughy my reflection in a window at work that day..I looked terrible...i thought "i've been strong and doing good most days" and yet..I hadnt noticed what all this grief has been doing too me..I know i've lost weight since it happened...granted, i am not magically slim and trim now...but my clothes were hanging off of me.. I went and bought new ones..The next day at work, people were telling me how nice i looked... i hadnt even realized..It can make you feel better, even though its not a miracle cure..
I got hit with a massive wave of grief this past saturday..its going to come and go..we just have to ride them out.. we are here for you Ruthann, get it all out if you need. *hug*
Your son did a wonderful thing in taking care of his Dad but he, too, must move forward with his life. He can't judge you and how your coping with the enormous loss and must be reminded that you need time to grieve just as he does.
You both need to allow each other the time and space to grieve in your own ways.
I wish you easier days ahead.
Roz