Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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Lonely.long.time 07/15/2018

My husband was diagnosed with cancer January 11 2017 we fought and we fought hard. I was required to be his caregiver after the 1st round of chemo we were in remission for 30 days. Rediagnosed and sent through 2nd chemo. We were in remission 30 days and rediagnosed again. That was devastating. So we agreed to BMT in January 2018. We did everything rite but cancer had no mercy on us. He passed at home were he wanted to be. But I have been lonely and married for a long time.

Cancersux 07/15/2018

I'm with you on this one. Lost my husband of 50 years one month ago today. Had been together since age 13. I have no desire to go on.

nvcowboy2 07/15/2018

My wife of 26 years died unexpectedly at home while we were getting ready for work. She was 49. It helps to talk to people who can relate, and it becomes difficult is not just plain awkward to try to relate to those who can't relate.
We all grieve in different ways, I work hard and try to exhaust my mind and body to the point where I have no strength to outwardly grieve, but the moment I have my strength back, I cry like I'm dying inside. Oh sure they say it will get easier, but they never say when. Stay close to those of us that have lost a spouse, We know all the feelings you have are real because we are feeling them too. Prayers for you.

Myfavorite 07/15/2018

I hear you on the loneliness with this. Though my wife did not have cancer, I was her caretaker for many months before she passed 29 days ago. It's like you work so hard to save them, putting the illness before everything else. It becomes your job, your life. And when they pass, it just ends. And you're left with "now what do I do?" It's a tough road ahead for all of us. That's why we come here...to connect with others who are going down similar roads and to not feel so alone in this.

cupolatte 07/16/2018

Of course you are lonely. It is a beautiful thing to have been married for a long time. You were very blessed and you were a good and faithful wife, caring for him until the end. That will comfort you in time to come, but now, I know that the loneliness is excruciating. It took me about 3 years to finally be able to begin to see life through the lens of something other than Rick's death. Even then, I had my bad days. I had some very faithful friends who prayed for me and walked with me through that difficult time. I am going to begin praying for you. God bless you and comfort and strengthen you.

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