Ii'm so sorry for you loss and that you have had to join us on this journey. But I'm glad you found us here. DS has been a lifeline since I lost my husband suddenly 5 1/2 months ago. Everyone here understands, supports and cares. We all feel the same emotions and pain.

Now is the time to be gentle with yourself. I know it is hard, but you really need to take care of you. This is a tough journey so take it slow...sometimes minute by minute. Cry, scream, let your pain out. Journaling has helped me so much. Come here often and vent.

Sending you gentle hugs and lots of prayers.
Blessings,
Sharon

I'm also so sorry for your loss, I lost my wonderful husband on March 16th, 2013. I'm lost here without him, my heart is broken, and I too feel I have no purpose any longer. I too like Lady 101 started a journal and it seems to help me too.Write about anything & everything.. write about your day, what you're feeling, write to your husband, write to God, just write whatever you're feeling and thinking. I'm also adding a memory to each enrty as well, a memory of him or of the both of us..
God Bless You, and keep you well during this most difficult time .
My prayers are with you as well as all who come to DS for support and understanding.

I am also looking for that purpose. I lost my husband unexpectedly in Jan. I still don't know how people function, but they do and so will we. I do have days now that I don't cry. Peace and love you Brenda

Hey,
I also lost my husband Feb 28th. I'm having a terrible time as well. He was young only 39 with cancer. I have a teenager to raise now. I'm not sure how to cope either. I'm sick of the advice from people. Like time will heal or everyday is a little better. Oh the best one is your so strong I dont know how you do it. Really?? Well I don't either. . I feel like I want to freak out and lose my mind. I guess they better hope there not around when that happens. Just know I'm here. I'm by my computer for any help you need. If you like me most of the day is spent crying and feeling completely lost. I think the best thing I heard was you feel like a lost puppy dog. Email me anytime. We can talk or vent together.

You've found a very good group of people here! Since my wife died on March 11, I have relied heavily on this group for comfort and support. I am so sorry for the reason that you're here but I am glad that you are here among friend who understand what you are going through. We are here for you. God bless and comfort you.

Jim

pink..... I am so sorry for your loss.....I lost my husband of 48 years, on Feb 11, 2013......Welcome to our group......

My husband passed on February 5 and I can identity with your feelings of loss of purpose. I also wonder how I will go on without him. At first I promised myself I would focus on surviving minute by minute. Now I manage to focus on hour by hour. I go to a bereavement support group and I come here to DS often. I have found that connecting here at DS has helped me the most. Hang in there, be kind to yourself and know we are all here to help each other through.

I'm very sorry for your loss. No one can understand the depth of your pain except those who also have lost the loves of their lives. Your whole world has been turned upside down, so nothing looks the same as before. It is natural, though painful, to feel like you don't have a purpose anymore. You DO have a purpose, you just can't see it right now through the tears. It will take time for your purpose to slowly reveal itself. I wanted it right away and I felt very insecure without it. The wonderful friends here have kept me up when I was so very down. As you wait for your purpose to be revealed to you, coming here often will give you strength and you will not feel so alone. I know exactly how you feel right now. There is no shortcut through grief. But there will be a day when you feel better, even though you don't see that on your horizen. Hang on, just hang on, and be in close contact with friends here. Hugs going out to you!
Kathleen

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For now, your job/calling is to listen to your heart by grieving out your pain -

In time, you will find a purpose but not till the active grieving has ended -

Even though you feel like you're alone, you're not, people are always here to help, to listen, to share -

Rest your weary head & heart as often as possible -

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband to lung cancer on April 23,2013. The single best thing that I did for myself was find this group. It is populated with the most caring understanding people that you will ever meet and we all understand because we are finding our way down this path of grief too. Listen to your heart and do what you need to do, sleep when you can, eat when you are able. Grief is not only emotional but takes a physical toll too. There is always someone here to talk to.
I hope you have a peaceful night
Cathy

And as you can tell, your mind does'nt seem to act right....(as you can see by me)...I blame it on the fog...
The only group I found was here, and everyone has been so helpful, without them, I don't think I would have made it through the last 2 months. I felt so alone in my grief, but they have been here for me, and for you.
The world seems to go on, and noone wants to hear what we are going through, But, no matter how weird you think the problem is, we will solve it together.
May God be with you, as you travel this road with us.

Sandee

Thank you all for your words of comfort. I'm grateful to find this group.

I to also want to express how sorry I am for your loss. As many advised me here instead of looking for purpose just strive to get through each day at this point and be gentle on yourself. God bless. Gerald

Hi lost my sweetheart of 14 years on 4-1 he was only 55 he was the love of my life massive heart attack I pray I can make it