Hi, I'm so sorry about your husband and understand how you are feeling.

I lost my husband Eddy in 2008. There are days that aren't bad, but there are days that are just miserable I miss him so much. But when I have those, I tell him how I feel and somehow that makes it easier.

I am right there with you. I want my husband, it's only 7 weeks for me.
Marilyn

Oh to both of you, try to hang in there for what ever is you strenght in life.

The day my husband died, a heart attack and I did CPR to no avail, my daughter and father are the reason I kept going.

Without them, I would have given up right then.

I fight my way though every day, put on a mask to hide the tears and pain at work.

Be true to your feelings, don't ever, ever let anyone tell you how you are "suppose to feel" OR "you should find someone else".

That is so hurtful!

Cry when you need to, don't hold back. And laugh when you can.

Violet,
Yes, it is exhausting, but these simple words..."Cry when you need to, don't hold back. And laugh when you can", written by pd45 can help get you through some of the tough times.
Juanita

Violet I totally understand your sentiments. Its tiring putting one foot in front of the other each day when all we really want is to have our spouses back. This is a journey none of us chose but I hope it is kinder for you as the weeks and months pass by. I think all of us would give anything in the world to hug or hold our spouses one more time. I hope and pray all of us find our way in this journey.

I joined this group last week, but haven't even popped in to read posts until today. I've felt so alone. I lost my soul mate on January 12 and my 13 year old dog two weeks later. Tomorrow is the birthday of the son I lost in '08. I am overwhelmed with emptiness. I just want my life back. I'm pushing myself to do things others expect of me. I go through the everyday motions, but it like I'm on autopilot. My arms and legs work, but there is nothing inside. I think it should help me to know that there are others of you who are treading the the same path at the same time. I will keep visiting this group and maybe someday I will have something to give.

Janni1234,

I just got on to this site yesterday, I'm glad you are here and I hope you find some comfort. I know I have, even if it is just a glimmer.

And you have already added, just by joining in.

My "auto pilot", stalls on me. M les will just go out from under me. It is hard for me to get off the couch. I am sorry for your loss. We are truley in this together.

Janni, I am so sorry for your losses.....We are all walking the same path and are here for you.......God Bless you and give you strength......hugs, Lin

3 weeks today was the funeral.....My goal today, is to not feel sorry for myself. tomorrow is my oldest sons 47th birthday. I a going to make him a cake.My grandkids and great grandkids are coming here to see him on Saturday. The first of many firsts.

Janni: I feel like you do at times. I have lost everyone of my relatives except my children and grandchildren. I have no mom, day, uncles, aunts, brothers or sisters. I even lost a nephew at 34. My husband was my rock supporting me through all my losses. Now I am lost without him. I know that is why I am tired. A part of me is depressed and there is a reason for it. I hope time eventually and the summer helps me through this feeling.

Thank you for welcoming me into your group. I hope we call can give strength to each other. Just know, that even if I am not posting, I am checking in and exchanging hugs with you!

Violet,

Just keep holding on, we are going to get there. Read some of these posts the other girls did at 4 and 5 years, we are going to get there too. I told you a long time ago on this journey, God gave me a mountain to climb this time, and girl it is hard, somedays I feel like staying in bed and saying the heck with everything and everyone but something keeps me going, and we are going to make it, keep on pushing. Stephen would want you to grow stronger, he is already so proud of you !!! Hugs, Lynn

I am so pleased you have all found this site to support each other. I am widowed over five years and came here in the head space you are in now. Bonding with each other is how we get through the todays and tomorrows.

I called my experience like being in a dark tunnel filled with pits to fall in and roots to trip over. As the time passed I became aware the sun was still shining and I just couldn't see it. Hold hands and we will walk together. Hugs to all of you, Sharon

I can see where you are coming from. It's been 4 years for me and I still have bouts where I don't want to keep going. But they are becoming fewer and fewer. Stay busy!