Only you will know when it's time as we all heal at different rates. I'm only at 5 months and not close to being ready, though I know I need to at least start making new friends. Just be sure you doing it for the right reasons.

God Bless!

RUSS

I am we really get along . I just want ppl to know that there is still life and not to run out and do anything ur not ready for but when u r ready. U r so right everyone moves at different times and that is good . Making new friends is good . If u ever need to chat I am here to listen . My hubby has been gone for almost 15 an half month. There r days it feels like it just happen. God bless u and may u feel and hear her sweet nonethings in ur ears and dreams.

I am very happy for you. This gives the ones of us who aren't there yet hope. I loved my husband with all my heart, but hope some day to be able to share my life with another. God is the only one who knows if that will indeed happen.

Your progress is inspiring and you are right. There is no replacing our spouse but living happy again truly honors their love, either with another or enjoying your life as a single individual. Sharon

Well we are all different, and our circumstances are all different.

In my case my wife fought a difficult 10 year fight with stage 4 colon cancer. So every year that she lived we were cheating death. After five operations ( including a brain tumor ) and 180 chemotherapy treatments over 10 years we finally ran out of treatment options in February this year. She got worse and then we did hospice in our home for one month and then she died ( hospice people were wonderful, btw ).

In my religion, The Baha'I Faith, we do not embalm the body, we wash it and wrap with cloth before burial. My wife wanted me and our three kids ( 30' 33, 36 ) to do that for her. I was told that is was a very powerful experience. I did not like washing her body because it was cold, but there was no doubt that her spirit had left for the next life to be with God. So I guess the process had the desired effect on me, thought not what I expected.

Anyway only weeks after the funeral, I decided that I wanted to get married again sometime. We had a happy marriage, and I really enjoyed all the closeness and time spent together as a family.

So that is where I am today. I don't have any feelings like I am being disrespectful of my wife or our marriage. I'm a good person, and I was a good husband. If I find the right person, I will be again.

The only time my wife and I ever talked about what we would do if the other died, she told me she would want me to get married again ( she said she would not get remarried because training another husband would be too much work, lol ).

So I think it's perfectly ok to get remarried and help make someone else's life good as well. Now, finding that person is the hard part.

Bob

I know I could love again and share my life with someone new. I know Don would want me to. He told me I was such a loving and giving of a person that I should find someone else. But I am not emotional ready yet. He died 6 months ago and I am still a mess. I still have trouble sleeping. I cry easily. I am in a turmoil over which direction my life should take. He was a disabled veteran and I spent the years together taking care of him. Now there is a big hole. I can go anywhere and do anything I want. Trouble is I just cant figure out what that is. So I think the best thing for me is to figure myself out and get some direction before I even look for anyone. You give me hope that there may be someone when I am ready. God bless in your journey.

I believe our spouses would want us to be happy, and to move on to another relationship if that were our desire. If we didn't want that, that's alright too. A person can have a happy balanced life by themselves. I miss having him around. I miss the sharing and that limitless dimension that having that deep a relationship adds to life. I'm glad you've found someone. Best wishes and happiness to you.

I am happy for you that you are ready to move on. It is okay to move one, life does not stay the same. My moving on is to move out of the family home into a small house next to my daughter. I am excited to be decorating this tiny place. My husband knew our home was too big for one so he wouldn't mind me moving away. I am okay to be alone.

I am grateful for your post! All of this is so hard to navigate. It helps to know that we can love again but our dearly departed will be in our hearts forever. It's a new chapter and it also helps to know that he/ she will be different. I'm at almost 5 months and just recently started feeling ok with the prospect of having someone else in my life. That was a huge mountain to climb after 24 years with Mike. Anyway, I have a lot to offer the world and I'm a very loving person. I would rather entertain the prospect of another relationship than hate "those old couples holding hands". Thanks!

Our spouses will always be tucked away in our hearts...I am making way for yet another journey in my life, as the journey with my late husband is over...I can only hope this is where I'm suppose to be at this point in my life... but am taking it just as before, one day at a time...

It is true that everyones path to healing is as different as we are. I don't think the decision to seek another relationship or not is a reflection of our relationships or the depth of our love for our spouse. I love my husband deeply and I know that he wants me to be happy and I am working on that. Right now I choose to do that thru expanding my group of friends and learning new things. I am not looking to date but if it happens it happens and if it never happens...I am ok with that too. I just want to be the best me that I can be and remain open for what the future brings.
Cathy

I'm sorry, but the thought of being in love with someone and watching them die is enough to keep me alone forever. I cannot go through what I've been through again...once is enough.

I understand what txartist is saying and I have thought that at times too. But Ii loved being part of a couple and I think I would want that again so I am not ruling anything out, but everything in due time. First I need to get through the grieving process and then see where life takes me.

Russ

I never say "never" to anything in life. I met my wife was I least expected it. I will leave myself open to everything and see what God has planned for me. I do know I still have a grieving process to work my way through no matter how long that takes. I also know my wife will always be a huge part of me. She helped me become who I am.
I am happy you found what works for you and yes God is amazing.
Gerald