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tpoulos 05/25/2011

Finding the new me.... or am I going back to me before Jim ? A bit of
both, Jim taught me so much in 18 years, my humble unassuming man
through his life and subsequent death has taught me the meaning of
Love... patience, sympathy, empathy, humility, compassion..... I will continue to honor his memory by giving back, the angry little girl has
left the building...life I have learned can change in a instant , I remain
humbled, grateful and blessed.... a sadness has found a place in my heart that will remain , the wound will never heal, BUT I can find joy &
happiness in the little things, I can be happy with me , God has my plan and purpose and I will evolve, the grief bursts are less often, it has gotten better, I am surviving, I still ask why but seek no answer, I have changed
I am continuing to change all for the better maybe that is the answer ?
Jim left so I could become......

deleted_user 05/25/2011

Thank you for sharing your strength as well as your heartache. Those of us following behind you find hope and wisdom in your journey. Knowing all too well, how hard it is to have either after what you have had to endure. Prayers that you continue to find the strength to hang in there waiting for Gods plan. Prayers and hugs.

limasc 05/25/2011

I am about 2 weeks behind you in the journey and I feel the same things you do. He will always be a part of us and we will always be sad that is gone. But there is joy and happiness that surrounds us everyday that we only have to let ourselves feel and it will find us. I had a good life before him, I will have a good life after him, better for having had him in my life.

So wonderful to hear that others are doing well and continuing to grow and realize their happiness and purpose. It makes me feel not quite so guilty for feeling good again.

Hugs--Lisa

NewRoadsForMe 05/25/2011

I congratulate you on your attitude as you have walked this awful road from total happiness or contentment to loss, sorrow, loneliness. You have lived through the wide range of emotions and have progressed to a hopeful, confident place. I admire all the things you said. Thanks for your post.
Kathleen

ECochran 05/25/2011

Thank you for sharing. It gives me hope. Edie

deleted_user 05/26/2011

Hi Tracy.... Yes... God definitely does have a plan and a purpose for you and for each one of us!! And He promises us a Hope and a future!

Thanks for your encouraging post... I am so happy to read you are feeling better !!

Love ya my friend!!
Linda

deleted_user 05/26/2011

I very much like what you wrote. I don't think God has my plan and purpose. I feel like I have to find my purpose again. Others have prayed for me and my husband, who was a good good man. He suffered, and put up with so much. We were kind, generous people , and each of us changed for the better as a couple. I work on will finding my way, stumbling through as best I can, and remember the wonderful things I learned from him.

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