Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
It has become apparent to me over the past couple of weeks that this time of year will forever be my least favorite time of year. Not only is it the holidays but the 1st anniversary of Brad's death on January 3rd. Thank goodness we only had our tree up for about a week last year, otherwise it would have been unbearable to put them up this year. It was hard, especially because I had packed them away on the 1st and they were waiting to be taken to storage. Except they never made it. They sat in my living room by the door for 10months and then in my bedroom for the last two.
I've been trying to decide what to do on the anniversary. Thankfully it is on a Saturday. The one thing that keeps coming to mind is to get a very small tattoo either on my ring finger or my wrist. Just something small like an infinity symbol, his initials, or heart. Has anyone else done something like this? I can't really think of other conspicuous spots to put it. Maybe my side, but I don't know. I want to be able to see it but I also want to be able to cover it up for work and such. Any ideas or thoughts?
I've been trying to decide what to do on the anniversary. Thankfully it is on a Saturday. The one thing that keeps coming to mind is to get a very small tattoo either on my ring finger or my wrist. Just something small like an infinity symbol, his initials, or heart. Has anyone else done something like this? I can't really think of other conspicuous spots to put it. Maybe my side, but I don't know. I want to be able to see it but I also want to be able to cover it up for work and such. Any ideas or thoughts?
On Dec. 8th Kate started a thread about her tattoos, it should be on page 2.
Hugs
Janie
I am only on a little over 2 months now since I lost my Manny.
I took a very small amount of Mannys ashes with me to the tattoo shop and got 2 tattoos done and they added his ashes into the ink. I got one on my wrist - angels wings (cause he always called me "my angel") with a Y in the middle which is the Celtic symbol for M (for Manny) and then got a St Joseph lily with the words (para sempre) which means forever in Portuguese - Manny was Portuguese and the flower was his fav kind. So I got mine to remind me of our love because when he used to tell me he loved me he always said forever and ever after ever single "I love you" so only if I tell you what they mean people would not know and that is what I like about them cause I can share how emotional and how intimate the meanings are or no if I don't feel like I want to...... I felt it was something I HAD to do for ME, please I am here for any advise and hope my reply helps you a little with choosing something important and meaningful.....First Christmas will not be easy but keep strong (I know I hate it when people tell me that cause how much stronger would you like me to be) but strongs and thinking of you xx