One of the things that frightened me was losing precious memories of my husband. Then I recalled how in my biology class the teacher explained how our brain is sort of like a computer network, with lots of pathways to information. It's the original super highway.

Ever see that television show call Unforgettable, with a woman who has a memory that allows her to recall exactly what she was doing on a particular day. Go back to 1971 and most of us can't tell you exactly what we were doing on a given day, but people with that sort of memory can down to the least significant detail. Only 12 people in the world have that sort of memory which got me thinking. If every memory is stored in the brain, why can't I recall it in detail? Maybe it's because I've never tried.

So, last week I started trying. And guess what? I'm remembering smaller and smaller details. It's amazing to me when I recall something I hadn't thought about in years. I do it by thinking of a particular year, then remembering something significant that happened on a certain day. From there I remember something not as important. Pretty soon it feels like I'm time traveling and I'm remembering sights and smells from that time. I'm using this method to remember the early days of my life and the early days when I met my husband.

So, for example, the other day I was thinking about my childhood and riding the bus with my mother. Soon I started to recall getting off the bus and going into a candy store. Then I started remembering the candy in the store, and so on and so on. It ended with me recalling stuff I hadn't thought I could remember. I asked my aunt about some of it and she verified it as a true memory.

I'm 55 and my memory of the candy store goes back fifty years.

I'm posting this so people who've lost a spouse can know that we don't really lose our memory of our loved one. They just get buried, but we can get to these memories if we want to.