Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
Most of us probably have good days and bad days. Yesterday (and today) have been bad days. The fact that I am overwhelmed with work and endless problems hasn't helped.
So - I was feeling pretty bad yesterday and I went on the internet to look at the news. I read about a man in Indiana whose wife just died - she was (I believe) 48. The husband and friends were waiting at the funeral home for the funeral to begin when they got word that their two children (who were arriving with a friend who was driving) had been struck by a truck and both children were killed instantly. The funeral for the mother has been postponed to another day.
I keep thinking about this poor man. My father used to like the Desiderata - and had it framed in the house - where is says things like "there will always be greater and lesser people than yourself". Yeah - there will always be people with less problems and more problems. I don't even know this man and I'm still thinking about it. I'm lucky I have a house and kids. And I'm lucky to have found this site so I can tell people things when I feel I have no one else to.
So - I was feeling pretty bad yesterday and I went on the internet to look at the news. I read about a man in Indiana whose wife just died - she was (I believe) 48. The husband and friends were waiting at the funeral home for the funeral to begin when they got word that their two children (who were arriving with a friend who was driving) had been struck by a truck and both children were killed instantly. The funeral for the mother has been postponed to another day.
I keep thinking about this poor man. My father used to like the Desiderata - and had it framed in the house - where is says things like "there will always be greater and lesser people than yourself". Yeah - there will always be people with less problems and more problems. I don't even know this man and I'm still thinking about it. I'm lucky I have a house and kids. And I'm lucky to have found this site so I can tell people things when I feel I have no one else to.
Poor man
Debbie
I, too, sometimes feel like I am spending inordinate amounts of time reading posts here...some from way back...but it makes me believe that their is something closer to normal...down the road.
Rough morning this morning. Realize that mornings were "our time" to chat...reconnect...play...throughout our marriage. My husband was a musician...it makes it harder somehow...there was a lot of on the road time and gone time...honestly it feels so much like he is "just in Texas" or "just at rehearsal" or "just at a gig"...and although (in reality) I know he isn't going to be popping back through that door...it just feels that way. I miss him so much.
Maggie
When I am having a bad day (less often now), I try to remember
how blessed and grateful I am for what I do have and not dwell on
the bad.... I also feel that I have since my husband passed away
become a more compassionate, forgiving, patient person and
smile for the gifts given to me because of the sadness I endured
and I feel GOD has a plan for my life...
God Bless
Tracy