Let your pain flow, right along with your tears. It's God's way of giving you a massage.

No, grief is not something that somebody can say...that at this day, or that day, I'm going to be better.

You still need some time with all this. Just like you can't dictate how a cut or scrape would heal, you can't dictate how your emotions will heal when this type of thing happens.

My friend says that tears are the antifreeze of the soul...

Drink lots of water...you get a wicked headache from crying...and those horrible puffy eyes...I so get it.

Hope you're feeling a little better.

jules

Oh my, I can totally relate. I am sorry. I know how you feel. The only thing that gets me out of these terrors, is getting out of the house. You need to go and do something and not dwell on it. I hate those phrases of "time heals" " it will take time" etc...But they are true. No matter how much we hate it, it is true. I am dealing with the fact that he is never coming back and that is so hard to swallow. It is out of my control ( another thing I hate) but there is nothing I can do about it. I can't bring him back. So, you need to think about what you can do to make the situation better. Please know that we care about you, and that you need to see a counselor. Try to make an appointment today and see someone. It will help you. I am here if you need to talk. Hugs~Shelley

I noted several members are going through a crying spell, including me. I wonder if this long winter is getting to us besides the grief and hating this widow hood we find ourselves in.

I just know for some reason I have been really cryie (if there is not such a word there is now) yesterday all day and evening. somewhat this am but I have been going going going doing things.

I am just so fearful I won't make it for some reason when I felt so good before. I want time to go and go and go...

I am so sorry......sometime it seems there is no end to the tears and can`t believe I have any left but they just keep on coming.

Thinking of you, hugs Lu Ann

I am so sorry for your pain. I understand the awful situation you are in. I, too, keep thinking the awful spells of crying will end, but they just keep on coming intermittently and without much warning. At least you are in good company here, as most of us have gone through and still are going through the crying agony. God please help all here who are suffering with grief.

If I had my five+ years again the one thing I would change would be to cut down on the crying. No doubt.

Instead of crying I would go and do something active. Gardening, going for a walk with the twins anything but crying.

I had a full time job when Ruth died but if I had been retired or had been a stay at home mum I would have gone out and found a job. Paid or unpaid. Anything but the cycle of crying, crying and crying.

I'm sorry you're going through such a bad time. This is a bad time for a lot of people - the post-holiday season tends to be that way for a lot of us. And Jules is right, make sure you're drinking a lot of water so you don't get the dehydration - that will make your headaches worse as well as exhaust you, which in turn makes everything worse.

Are you still working with a counselor? I hope you are, you've got so much that you're trying to contend with. I understand - I kept thinking if one more person tells me 'God never gives you more than you can bear' then I'm going to explode, because I felt so completely overwhelmed and beyond my limits.

I won't lie and say this is an easy thing to get through - it's not easy. But it is possible. It's going to take multiple things to get through it though. Crying is one of them. Venting here is another.

We can give book recommendations if you're a reader (not everyone is) which might help, too.

Everybody's journey is a little different, and what works for one won't necessarily work for another, but the thing is to keep trying. Eventually you do feel better and will be glad you didn't give up.

I hope today is a better day for you. Love and Hugs, Martha

sometimes a good cry helps