WIDOWS AND WIDOWERS OF FAITH Community Group

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A wound we learn to carry

Group Foundergerald222
gerald222

I am in my 6th year and now go through each day living it to the best of my ability.  I can embrace beauty and joy around me and dont suffer from the debilitating effects of grief I once did.  Recently I visited my home city where my wife was laid to rest.  I chose to visit the grave and allowed myself during that visit for the pain and grief to resurface.  Is there a wound next to my heart. Yes.  Does it control me the way it once did. No.  Many worry about forgetting them and I dont think that is possible because they are part of who we are now.  Gratitude for what I had replaces sorry.  I also find it humbling God gave me such a tremendous gift.  I will repeat here what I heard many times on the grief journey.  You dont get over it but learn to live with it and yes a amazing life is still possible if you open your heart to it.  That is what both God and our spouses want us to do.  God bless.

shelda
shelda
Life continues Takes a long time to learn how to cope and i think the most important is that we have learned how to cope and Accept. Bless you (Hugs)
shewearsblack17
shewearsblack17
I haven't been on here in a while. I am still trying to get moved! It has been a trip within a trip. I recently started going to a different church and have had a little help from the people there. However, I wouldn't want to attend it on a permanent basis. There is one widower there; the pastor's wife asked him if he would help price my tools, and he declined. He is nice but not really someone I would like to share the rest of my life with. It has made me aware though that dating might be in the near future. I'm just not rushing it. My son is staying with me for a time. Looks like he is going back to OKC to re-bond with his kids; he is talking to his ex-wife on the phone. That would be a real answer to prayer and would get him off my couch. I am still going to therapy, and my therapist is a very nice, good looking man. Too bad he's way too young. I have one final session. So if you read bittersweet into this, yeah, it is, but it is past time for a change. I just need to come up with another grand or two, and I'm out of here. Enough of the Oregon Trail...