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dschwartz 03/12/2016

What a way to make a weekend quasi vacation . . D's BIL in hospital, two hours away. Just started packing up the dog food, treats, water, etc. Made the hotel reservation. On our way in the morning to "visit". He seems to be okay, too much to speak about here. I'm just over bad news and trying to make light of a not so great situation . . as in a two hour, two day travel trip. Loading up dogs, their food, bowls, water, beds, etc. Leaving cat food for cats (as in smorgasbord). They'll be okay for sure. Two days out and a half day in, we should be back late Tuesday, early Wednesday. Hopefully the Bro-in-Law will be released from Hospital during our time there. Again, I need to readdress myself with the question: is my glass half empty or half full? Too much negative info coming in. I hate it. However, will do what needs to be done to take care of family and D and "me". Round of hugs . . .

hgsdms 03/13/2016

It never quits for you does it? I am so sorry for all that you two are going through. Big hug.

bookdragon 03/13/2016

Sorry to hear about bad news! Your glass is always half full, but wouldn't it be lovely if one day it was overflowing? Hugs Patti

deleted_user 03/14/2016

Dayna, what the hell.......You are now my "Drama Mama!"

I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers [the oldest brother died 2 years before Morey] and as we all get older it's scaring the bejeebers out of me. Because I know what's coming: Visits to the hospitals, rehab centers, home visits and the dreaded hospice! NO THANK YOU! I'm headed for the darned mountain top and I'm going like all the old Indians did......all by myself without dragging everyone else into my drama!

I hope that you and Dewey's BIL get better and that the two of you can get back to your seedlings.

Love you,
Rozarella &hearts;

dschwartz 03/15/2016

Hey all . . we're back safe and BL doing well. Cats behaved while we were gone and didn't stay up all night partying too much! LOL The seedlings have grown!! Good to be home. Stopped at an Amish farm on the way back. Purchased some yummy home canned stuff, et al. The trip went very well . . D, the dogs and I had some fun times in Missoula. (Nice little college city, BTW . . and a river runs through it!) Cute artsy stores and restaurants . . oh and they had a real Mall. I'm not a big shopper, but I did stop in and purchase a wool cardigan that was on sale. Woop woop.

Patti . . . I love your thinking with the glass overflowing! I'm gonna start owning that one, once I accomplish the glass half full thing. LOL And Roz . . I'm with you on the Indian ceremony . . and I am 1/4 Cherokee! Too bad the goobermint won't let us do it the "old way".

Hugs from Drama Mama working on Zen Priestess! :)

deleted_user 03/22/2016

I'm glad to hear that BIL is doing well. Now, life can move along at its maddening pace all it wants to!!!

I'm so busy I don't have time or energy to pay attention to grieving. Either that or I'm really dealing with it because it doesn't blindside me anymore. If I get teary, it doesn't last long and I'm allowing myself the time to work through it, but in a few seconds I'm done. Not like before where I could cry my way home and then some!

I like my quiet space and time for me without interruptions and if I'm feeling a certain way, I don't answer the phone or leave my home! I allow myself time to replenish my batteries for life! I'm finding out who I am, what I want and where am I going?

I take care of ME and Horton and that's enough for now!

Roz &hearts;

dschwartz 03/23/2016

That's beautiful Roz. So glad to hear!! Atta girl. Hugs

statsmaster 03/24/2016

Roz,

You are doing just fine in your timeline. You ladies are so emotional and have a difficult time sorting things out. I think I'm doing alright with the very seldom meltdown but it seems to be about other things more than SJ's passing. May be deceiving myself but I'm glad for what I had and looking to the future full sails ahead. My boats getting a little shaky but I will keep moving forward. The other option is not one I'm ready for. Peace to all! Dewman

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