I mean.....how do PS behave when you ignore them?

I'm sure I don't wanna have contact but man!!!! You have to feel how my heart beating when I saw him calling or receive his text!!

Oh this is difficult Nutellina, the best is to avoid responding because if he gets the claw in you again he will be the same horrible man who abused and used you terribly. How strong do you feel? if you know or feel only a slight sense he can get to you then it probably will be best to ignore his attempts to contact you. I know how you feel. I am not good at answering what you should do since I still answer my xS texts. But mine hasnt been threatening or physically abused me. It doesnt make him less dangeorus as they are dangerous emotionally too. I know you know that well, What do you feel or think now about him calling? I am sure someone else here will tell you what you need to do, what is best for you. I will of course wish you ignore him. If he make problems of threaten you then one probably need to contact the police.

He left me messages saying he has some questions that are really on his mind and heart.
He is being all sweet and stuff. I know him.
I think the best thing to do is not answer at all. What can we talk with a person that never admits their mistakes and hide everything. It's like to talk to a wall.

Him saying he has questions are typical excuses for the socioptaths to make you believe he has important questions when in fact its to lure you in, to make you respond and meet them. I think its best not to answer. But I know you get curious. But fact is that he will never turn into a good guy, He has shown how bad he can be. I am so sorry because I know you cared about him. But they are who they are, forever.

Yeah I guess a tecnic so we get curious. If I want someone attention is the right way to do so. Lol. Yeah I've being through difficult months. Don't wanna go back there too. So I guess he still needs to know I still there for him if he gets in trouble again? If it's not in trouble already .

Yes they come back when they want or need something, its always for roof over head, sex, money, supply to feed their ego. Sometimes, if we go back in touch with them again, it will usually be clear in short time what they are after. They dont keep their mask on for long.

Yeah probably he is having problems or he wanna see if he has control on my feelings still. That honestly he does but I refuse to give him back the power. It's interesting how they use the words "love" , "heart" in a such superficial way. What a pure love. Lol

Lol..yes its weird, saying all sweet words but dont feel any of them...lol..but thats their brain...sometimes I wonder if they know what they say in the moment they say it. I read on psychopathyawareness that they believe their own lies in that particular moment, but it doesnt last long as its empty to the core...next they think something else...no wonder they create havoc..

Nutellina

http://www.lisaescott.com/2011/12/28/hoover-not-compliment

Read this article and do not be swayed or sucked in by his texts

Excellent article about the hoover!

Forgotten yes I was reading the same thing in fact. And it seems they forget very easily what they have done or they just don't care at all. My ex used to say soooo many lies... a lot

Many thank you so much for the article. It's very very helpful We are lucky that they have a recognisible behavior.....

Eyes yeah you are right. I know exactly what to do even thought sometime it's hard. But not harder to hear someone yelling and insulting every night.

"Now" is the time for you to put on the heart of stone we all keep in reserve for these situations, and tell him to tell him go lock lips with an exhaust pipe.

I know it might be, and probably will be/is difficult, and you will no doubt be sad and question yourself for days or even weeks on end, but it's something you have to do. And besides, that's what support groups are for!