Victims of Psychopaths Community Group
Is he or she a sociopath or psychopath? Think we're only talking about serial killers here? Psychopaths, sociopaths and even narcissists come in every walk of life, every career level, and every socio-economic category.
My psychopath tried to contact me for a month after I left him, I did not respond at all, then he moved his a** and found and new girl and got engaged within 2 months (our relation lasted 6 years).
I tried to be with him again as I could not live without him ( such a typical victim behavior). I left him within a month as he was again lying and trying to use me and at the same time trying to kill my self esteem by telling me I was getting old, my feet were not pretty anymore etc etc. He didnt try to contact me after that, it has been months.
I guess thats how psychopaths are, they keep you in their magnificent castle of lies and then leave as if you didnt even exist, while you try to heal and pick yourself up with whatever strength you are left with while they have the fun time of their life.
It gets me furious at times, the man who was after me for years, didnt let me settle down, disgraced me by sending anonymous abusive letters to my colleagues for 6 months after my marriage and denying them later, ruined my marital life, who used me physically and mentally, telling me I am his goddess blah blah, when I finally leave him while still loving him but knowing that I cant trust him. he gets a new girl and gets engaged within 2 months and leaves me as if I did not even happen.
For me the painful part is that the man who did so much to me, is now enjoying his life with a new girl while I am all shattered, still trying to understand what happened and working so hard to heal while this man is enjoying the best time of his life. Why???
I tried to be with him again as I could not live without him ( such a typical victim behavior). I left him within a month as he was again lying and trying to use me and at the same time trying to kill my self esteem by telling me I was getting old, my feet were not pretty anymore etc etc. He didnt try to contact me after that, it has been months.
I guess thats how psychopaths are, they keep you in their magnificent castle of lies and then leave as if you didnt even exist, while you try to heal and pick yourself up with whatever strength you are left with while they have the fun time of their life.
It gets me furious at times, the man who was after me for years, didnt let me settle down, disgraced me by sending anonymous abusive letters to my colleagues for 6 months after my marriage and denying them later, ruined my marital life, who used me physically and mentally, telling me I am his goddess blah blah, when I finally leave him while still loving him but knowing that I cant trust him. he gets a new girl and gets engaged within 2 months and leaves me as if I did not even happen.
For me the painful part is that the man who did so much to me, is now enjoying his life with a new girl while I am all shattered, still trying to understand what happened and working so hard to heal while this man is enjoying the best time of his life. Why???
I had never been so happy in my life, he was so caring, so attentive to all my needs, taking care of my meals, my belongings, reminding me about my stuff, talking late night, all the jokes and fun, the flowers etc. its so difficult to forget how happy I had been.
And now thinking that he will be doing all that with the new girl makes me so uncomfortable.
Learn to love yourself and get ingaged with the life you have!
I used to be so hypervigilant about everyone and everything, scared I would be blindsided all the time. I didn't know any different. That is what life was for me. I'm finally finding joy in my life.