I am sorry, Johnny. Dont feel too bad. He is trying to make you believe he has emotions by sending that text, that way he thinks he will have you hooked emotionally and ponder and ponder about him. He is contradicting himself, saying he is a sociopath yet claim he has feelings and emotions like we do. Sociopaths do not feel love like we do. But they love to make us believe that.

Yeah, interesting about the admission of psychopathy followed by the BS lies. Sorry you had a slip up. Have your friend remove him. Why is your friend still friends with him? I had that happen w/ my first psycho and I ditched any friends who still associated him knowing what he had done to me.

I read this on a blog (halcyon) and it just makes sense:

"The most telling thing that narcissists do is contradict themselves. They will do this virtually in the same sentence, without even stopping to take a breath. It can be trivial (e.g., about what they want for lunch) or it can be serious (e.g., about whether or not they love you). When you ask them which one they mean, they'll deny ever saying the first one, though it may literally have been only seconds since they said it -- really, how could you think they'd ever have said that? You need to have your head examined! They will contradict FACTS. They will lie to you about things that you did together. They will misquote you to yourself. If you disagree with them, they'll say you're lying, making stuff up, or are crazy. [At this point, if you're like me, you sort of panic and want to talk to anyone who will listen about what is going on: this is a healthy reaction; it's a reality check ("who's the crazy one here?"); that you're confused by the narcissist's contrariness, that you turn to another person to help you keep your bearings, that you know something is seriously wrong and worry that it might be you are all signs that you are not a narcissist]. NOTE: Normal people can behave irrationally under emotional stress -- be confused, deny things they know, get sort of paranoid, want to be babied when they're in pain. But normal people recover pretty much within an hour or two or a day or two, and, with normal people, your expressions of love and concern for their welfare will be taken to heart. They will be stabilized by your emotional and moral support. Not so with narcissists -- the surest way I know of to get a crushing blow to your heart is to tell a narcissist you love her or him. They will respond with a nasty power move, such as telling you to do things entirely their way or else be banished from them for ever."

Remember - you can feel. He does not. What he says is only for himself. You share. He can not. A veiled attempt at connecting with you only serves his own selfishness. Realize this, please. It is going to hurt, you. For he cannot feel the pain.

It is difficult to understand this, but please for your own sake - try to. There will never be a ta-da moment when he realizes his life and his heart is empty. That he is truly different from you in that he cannot feel empathy.

And there is nothing you can do or say that is going to change that. I know. I've spent over 30 years with mine. In the home stretch of getting away.

Take care

I know I'm messing with fire and gasoline on a slippery slope. Its so hard or me to separate myself from him. I do know better,but i crave his attention. There is nothing special about him, just average looking, just average build, messed up teeth, no prize by any means. Even my friends have said "you're messing with him?" in a derogatory tone. I gotta get to the therapist soon :( i'm so disgusted with myself. Its been 4 months since i saw him and i still think about him 95% of the time. In my younger days, three days and i'm moving on to the next guy. I really just want to dissolve and disappear. Maybe i need a good nights rest. I'll try to resist.

He is keeping the door ajar ... placing you on the back burner .. should his latest source of supply dry up .. he always has you to fall back on ... until something better turns up !

If he loved you .. he'd be with you .. he wouldn't try to turn your head inside out. He wouldn't lie to you or disrespect you or treat you badly.

You need to remind yourself why you ended this relationship 3 months ago .. I know it is hard to come to terms with what you are dealing with .. but a psychopath cannot empathize with a question such as this - "I'll never understand how you could just shrug you shoulders and walk away from our relationship. I loved you so much and all i wanted was you to be honest" He shrugged his shoulders and walked away because he cannot feel real love. It's like you are appealing to the better nature of a creature who does not actually have one.

Don't beat yourself up for being human .. remember that you are not the lying, cheating (whatever) scumbag here .. your intentions were sincere and that is why you now feel so much hurt and confusion. Your search for answers (from him) is an exercise in futility because if he is a psychopath, half the stuff that he says will be dubious, honesty is not a strong point with them. All the answers that you need are in the way he behaves (has behaved), look at the reality of the situation and remember how it felt to be in a relationship that you cannot fully trust (with good reason). Recovery from the harm they cause takes time ... along the way you will occasionally relapse (because you are normal person with proper feelings) .. but the important thing is you realise your mistake and you seek to rectify it .. it's all about building strength of character and this does not happen overnight

I see this response differently. Somehow he now knows you know he's a psychopath. I read what he wrote as saying that now that you know, everything should make more sense -- with the implication that he won't change -- but you should now adapt to knowing that he is a psychopath, and make allowances accordingly. Isn't that what they usually expect more covertly? All their management of us is to get us to give them what they need, regardless of what we need. Maybe he feels free that the cat is out of the bag and you're still coming back maybe (he thinks). But it would be on his terms, and you already know you don't like those terms. The attraction is more like an addiction than an attraction, the way they are.

Don't feel bad about not rebounding from him faster as you might have when you were younger. We all had more hope for our seemingly endless future back in the day. But, psychopaths really mess with your head and they tear you down. It therefore takes a lot more rebuilding from you to recover. It's not just a more fish in the sea kind of thing. Give it time, don't worry too much about the one step back sometimes, and feeling better should come.

Yes, I agree with escape, he tells you he is a sociopath and throw in that he misses you and so on, to keep you hooked pondering. Still, you know that a sociopaths does not feel love like we do, but he tries to make you believe he has emotions.

and to see if you still are pondering and accept him for being a sociopath.

Dont feel bad..eventually you will get sick of him his spell on you will wear off

Being new here, I don't know all the circumstances, yet with the name of the group it's not too hard to put two and two together. Ending a relationship is never easy especially when you're still in love, we want answers, our hurts we would like to be acknowledged and an apology for those hurts. basically unfinished business. I'm sure you're already doing this, and are not yet done. The grieving process. Think of it this way. You have a hook anchored to the love in your heart, attached to this hook is a chain. Usually this chain will lead to another hook anchored into your lovers heart, but i this case,he is merely holding the chain, tugging at it on occasion to make sure it is still firmly set. He does this because he has another chain in the other hand and it's hooked to someone else heart. If that hook will ever fall from that other chain, he still has yours firmly anchored to fall back on. You need to remove that hook from your heart and yes it will and is painful. You may even want to hold that chain for a while, but the next time he gives that chain a tug you can simply let it go. Hope this helps and even made any sense (having a rough night) True Freedom is Merely a Few Tears Away, Blaine

I hope so Gigi. What i miss the most (we didn't live to gather) is the few hours we would spend together, acting silly, eating, being intimate, and so on. I felt special. On the other side of the coin he was constantly on the prowl (with my car), placing humiliating ads on different web sites, the deceit, the lies, and so on. Im better off without him and i'm gonna stick to "no contact". I'll meet someone genuine soon and he'll just be a bad memory.

Its a cheap game. They will throw you some attention only to discard and hurt you again. You sent a message, its ok, but dont overthink about his message ( he doesnt mean the nice things he said). Let it go