I understand your feelings of wanting revenge, Johnny. I have had a few thoughts too..wanting to expose him for who he is and tell people, but I know it will probably back fire and make me even more drained, so I stay cool and try go on. They are evil jerks.

Im so angry. I just cant conceive how a person can just use you just for the thrill of getting away with using you. The devil in disguise. Hopefully a year from now he'll be out of my head completely. We had no common friends and I've deleted all his info so i have noway of knowing what kind of heartache he causing now. I'm sure someday I'll see him on the news and going to prison. Fingers crossed:)

I know EXACTLY how you feel! The trick is to get justice without breaking the law yourself. And it's hard to do that. But I've figured out how and I'm currently doing it to mine and I can't describe how good it feels. Unfortunately, I also can't post it publicly.

Its hard to understand who people can be so cruel just for the thrill of using us, like you say, I cannot understand it at all. Its just so sick! I think its a good thing not having common friends, it would just make more heartache for us, I think. They say if a sociopath is causing us grief they usually are causing several people grief. They live for destroying others.

sorry, I mean "how people" and not "who" *

I'm so proud of you AgentSmith!!!!

they do something cruel to someone who does not deserve it then sit back and watch that person fall apart...

right.they love any kind of attention.negative & positive. When you hate someone their still on your mind as well. The emotion is still intense.so giving them no attention is best. When you hate,you give them control

I fantasize about exposing mine to his new girlfriend. I think what you feel is totally normal!

I can totally understand and relate to that feeling, Johnny. I wanted to get my revenge on the exNS in so many ways- scratching his precious car, exposing him for what he was, approaching his new partner, letting his so called ‘friends’ know what he really thought of them…

It has been a year now and in the end I’m glad I didn’t choose to act on any of it. I feel like I’ve moved beyond his sickness and it’s so far gone that its no longer a part of my life and no longer a concern. And because I did not act on it, I have no regrets today.

The memories of what he did will be there forever and the pain runs deep, but the desire to make him pay becomes somewhat diminished. (I think for me that came from seeing that no matter what came after me, he has not yet been truly happy and will likely never be because he can’t feel love with anyone... It’s fake!). I walked away from the temptation and I am proud because now, after time has passed and I have begun to heal, I am able to see that I am a far better person than he could dream of being. I’m good and decent and have retained as much of my dignity as I possibly could have.

If the universe sees fit to punish him for the pain he has caused me and countless others, it will happen.

JohnnyFC, Hang in there, don't make any rash decisions that can backfire. You're still in the early stages of healing and It's So painful, I totally feel for u. Wait it out and if the need for vindication is still there I'm sure you will have the opportunity to expose him for what he really is. That's what I'm doing and just knowing that helps me to keep on. The farther out from the DnD the less clouded our decision making is and will prove to be more successful. If I did to my ex what I wanted to 4 months out I''d still be in jail lol lol. Only time will help you.

Dont you worry he will meet his match.mine met me and l was mire street smart and clever than his usual target.l exposed him not just for my satisfaction but for all other women re abused physically sexually mentally and emitionally.l was not easy prey..

Thanks every body. I was inspired to take a little passive aggressive revenge. I was able to post some negative truth comments in a public place that he haunts online. I'm pretty sure he saw the comments. Which adds truth to - any attention a P/S/N gets is what they want negative or otherwise. He could have easily deleted the comments but probably chose to be the victim. Hahaha, what a jerk. Im healing very nicely but i still get weak moments, days where i have the blues:(. Like last week I was so close to calling a friend of his, ready to hit "call", but i stopped myself. I get this rush of blood to the head that pushes me to try to contact him or his friends. I just need to wait a minute or two and i calm down. I do hate him, but i remember the most romantic moments we had together, but they were just moments, after that it was torture with all his lies and deceit.

JohnnyFC...I feel you...I ended my marriage to a psychopath March 7, 2013 when I filed for divorce...BUT to this day I still spend 80% of my time thinking about my time with him...trying to put the pieces of the puzzle together....and it is like that damn puzzle has a zillion pieces....

EVERYTHING WAS A LIE !! and I can't say I was completely blind sided. I knew there were 'red flags' all along...something wasn't quite right....EVER....BUT as they say 'curiosity killed the cat' ! While I was with him I took many psychology classes and criminology classes...trying to figure the beast out....intrigued at times.

Even with that education....I can NOT believe there are soul-less people out there.....real life emotional vampires...people with NO hearts walking among us...every day coming into contact with those that we love.

I do believe the best thing we can all do as victims....is the NO CONTACT Rule...and NEVER let the psychopath know that he as an effect on you....hide your emotions if YOU do come into contact with the evil bastards....

NEVER forget the realization that these people do NOT feel.

I refuse to be a dead cat :)

JohnnyFC...I read this post a while ago and although I'm sorry for your REAL pain...your post made me laugh sooooo hard!!! If we were vengeful as they are in their smear campaigns we could deliver some devastating blows. I would like to send a bill to mine for all the broken items and expenditures for him. The list is long and very very expensive. Yet with all the ruin they produce they still feel as if they are the VICTIM???!!!! Astonishing.

I particularly like the one about sending intimate pics to his mom!!! But I would never do that to her.