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His probation ends soon

nessiegirl
nessiegirl

My sociopath attacked me after I ended our relationship and I moved forward with pressing charges. That was almost four years ago. His probation expires in May 2019, which also means the protection order I have against his also expires. I decided that I would not file for a restraining order unless he does something to convince me I should. ( A judge wouldn't approve of one anyways because he hasn't contacted me in years because of the protection order). Anyways, I wasn't concerned because I know he moved out of state a few years ago. However, he still has family that lives here. 


Now to get to the part of the story that I am worried about. I am about 90% sure that I saw him a few days ago. This isn't a "I see him everywhere thing" or "I am afraid so he's always on my mind." It's not out of the realm of possibility that he moved back here, especially since he has family here. If it was him, I do not know if he saw me. But, should I use this as an excuse to move forward with a restraining order? Should I be afraid? A small part of me is because I know how dangerous he is, but there is the rational part of me that knows it is possible that he's moved on and isn't stupid enough to contact me again. 


Anyone been through something similar to this?

johnnycake
johnnycake
Have you considered radically changing your hairstyle/color, clothes and makeup.? Perhaps he wouldn't recognize you as easily. It there any way you can discreetly track his whereabouts, in case he decides to move back? I would prefer moving to having to deal with my ex often, but I am accustomed to moving, having relocated many times.
Group FounderAgentSmith
AgentSmith
Speaking from a lot of experience with psychopaths... Depending on the circumstances of you seeing him. If it was around your house, snooping around, then yeah. Otherwise, I wouldn't do anything to regain his attention. There is a good possibility that he's moved on to a new victim by now. And you want him to keep his focus on other victims. The moment you regain his attention, the shit starts all over again. Also, it will probably be very difficult to get a restraining order at this point without evidence of him doing anything recently.
nessiegirl
nessiegirl
Thank you AgentSmith and Johnnycake for the advice. I think I am just going to drop it unless he gives me a reason to pursue something more drastic. Hopefully, nothing comes up
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