I'm just coming to the realization that my mom may be a narcissist and I know for a fact my sister is a sociopath borderline psychopath. I hate my sister. And the thing is unlike with my brothers my mom never tried to make us get along. It's almost as if she wanted us to be at odds. My sister would lie, she learned how to manipulate situations early on. She had our younger brothers as her minions to just bother me. I was so happy when my brother got older and wasn't afraid of her anymore. At least to the extent not to do her bidding anymore. And when she figured that out her rage and lies was divided equally among us. We walked on eggshells growing up. My brother and i told our mom we don't remember nothing she did (when she did) because it all was fazed out with the bull shit we went through with our sister. My mom let her do any and every thing. She would call the police and put on a show!! Just lying about how we made her life horrible, somebody stole her batteries, my brothers got a friend over, Anything!!! She called so much they blocked her. When we were teenagers she would tell me how she was going to get my mom to hate me and she was going take my place. I couldn't walk in a room in the house that she was in without her literally calling me a whore,bitch etc through hisses as I walk by. I'm just finding out maybe 2 years ago through my brother that she would go to my mom and lie about things I didn't do, steal from my mom and say it was me. My brother said he tried to tell my mom but she told him he was lying. She would throw a tantrum and say she's going spit or put bleach in all the juice and open cups in the fridge. My mom would wait late night then go throw everything out the fridge thinking she actually did it. I remember one time she (as an adult) bought 200 $ in food. And my brothers made one comment, was not about her, she blew up threw all the food out the fridge, called the police and my mom did nothing. She would come home and accuse my brothers of having sex in her room then it went from that to they wanted to have sex with her. She would really walk around the house and just burst out with my brothers want her, they want to fuck her. Like really we all do what we got to do to avoid you and it still didn't work. I haven't seen or spoken to her or my mom in about 6 years and I would say I'm relieved except her and my mom send cps to my house constantly, they send the police to my house with just crazy stuff, it's child yelling for help. My daughter be with her dad whenever they come. One time police came to my house for my car cause someone called it in as a possible car in a crime. My car was parked not working!!! Lol!!! It's like leave me alone!!! I know it's her and my mom cause they did it to my brother. I blame my mom for how my sister is but like I mentioned I think my mom is narcissistic. My sister was her prize possession while the rest of us fell to the waste side. And I was the one she used as scapegoat. Never did anything right in that woman's eyes.

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Wow. I could have written that post. My middle sister used to lie about me even when I was in primary school to try and get me in trouble. Now she is in her fifties and worse than ever. It is so hard when it is a sibling. Luckily I have two other lovely sisters and we get on very well. But the middle one - nasty lying narcissistic sociopathic bitch.

Your sister sounds just like mine! A lifetime of her manipulations, lies and verbal attacks have caused me to disconnect from her to preserve myself. My mother was a sociopath but my sister makes my mother look like a Sunday school teacher! My mother passed away over 10 years ago and my sister has escalated her horrible behavior! I finally got tired of the verbal abuse, being told she wished I was dead, she even told me she wished she could slit my throat. The slightest thing sets her off in a rage. She always comes out looking like a victim to those she can manipulate into doing what she wants them to do. I love her, and will cover her in prayer, but will do all that from a safe distance with no contact. She can be very cruel with the things she says, never shows remorse, it is just supposed to be acceptable behavior, except it is not. I finally realize she really is wired wrong and cannot love anyone in a healthy way, she does not know how. I am in the survival mode and refuse to communicte with her again.

I had a mother that was a sociopath and she passed away, my sister is just like her multiplied by 1000! Growing up with a sociopath sibling is a nightmare! Now that she is nearly 65, she is worse than ever. I finally decided no contact to protect myself and live in peace. She is verbally and emotionally very abusive. She lies without giving it a thought, in fact I think she has done it for so long that she believes what she says. I love her, but refuse to let her destroy me. I have decided to have absolutely no contact with her and pray for her, I do not have to be anywhere near her to do that. The things that she has done to me through the years are too horrific to even write them down, lets just say i was her number one victim as a young child and i still have scars. I do not feel guilty for having no contact with her, just wonder why i did not do this a long time ago. I enjoy peace, and with her communicating with me, there is none of that. I have her blocked from my phone. She has no conscience, no capacity for empathy, no remorse when she hurts anyone.

I cannot believe I finally found a community! I have been Googling for months. I have searched Amazon for books. I have wondered why more people dont talk about this, because I cannot possibly be the only one with my experience.
My sister was labelled a "problem child". She would steal from my mother, lie about it, and deny it even when caught. As she got older, she did not change... she would still take my things, use them, and destroy them, while I would be looking for them like a crazy person. She once busted my head with a telephone receiver. And in her late twenties she threw a metal can at me.
I used to think she was jealous, because I outperformed her academically. Or that she had some deep secret -- like sexual abuse -- that was making her act up. Also, she was close to my father and I thought maybe she took a huge hit when my parents separated.
But as time went on, she never changed... she has never apologized for stealing and lying. And has said that all she has wanted from me was to be accepted.
But as I got older and started finding out about mental problems, I became convinced she is a sociopath. That conviction has strengthened in recent years. Stealing things you dont need--even from your fucing grandmother! LYING and never admitting it even when you are CAUGHT in the lie, and doing what I now think is mirroring (doing what she thinks should be done/ looks good). I have never been able to trust her, and I cant wait to have NC.
I only maintain minimal contact because our mother is aging and is not well.

It sometimes hurts me deeply that I cannot trust my own sibling--I hide my money and important papers when I know she is coming over. I move things to other people's houses... but I am definitely willing to live without her, forEVER. To be safe from the damaging manipulation of someone who never shows remorse and thinks they must have every good thing you come across is such a scary prospect. I have resigned myself to having her as a sad footnote in my life but being free.

I also would like a support group for psychopath relatives. I have a narcissistic husband but I am downright scared of my psychopath sister InLaw.

Hi my bf of 6year
Is showing signs of something bipolar/psychopath/sociapath
Reading your posts omg..Sounds familiar but still bits missing
He is very manipulative/ over powering /threatens/ and self loathing ....He likes to tell stories of how great he is about achievement and tries to either over power you to make me feel intimidated and for example if you have a poor sympathy story he has to be worse ..

I have a sister with sociopathic symptoms. Life has been stressful with her. She has done all sorts of things to cause me problems and trouble. She committed criminal identity theft using my name, not once but many many times She was caught stealing cigerettes in Walmart and used my name and I had to get out of that. She treats me with much hate. She is very irresponsible and doesn't seem to have the desire to fix her own name. Instead she uses mine without my permission and without my knowledge . She lies and twists and misinterprets things I say intentionally. Life with her has been a complete nightmare. Now that I am up on the fact she is a sociopath ,I will not need feed into her manipulation , She is trying to turn people against me and making herself look like the victim. Now she is starting in on my other sister using pity and sympathy tactics to manipulate my other sister into thinking she is the victim. She is a big user and will go to extreme to get what she wants.

Sister of the king.

Last night after a kind of argument I did a little research and discovered its not just me. When I read the description of a sibling of a physcopayhic nars.i was reading about myself
I have always known something was wrong but I though it was just out relationship, we are very close. I'm seeing now I have been kept close. I'm now in a place where I am depending on him. I see now how this was cleverly done. I was raised to do this. I was taught this. I'm 45 yrs old. I have no clue how to begin to fix it.
As I'm sure many others can i can tell stories of things pulled on me, manipulation beyond anything reasonable or even believable. Just last night he told me how crazy I was. Or screamed rather.
" Oh its just how he is " " he is your brother and he loves you '
I'm terrified of conflict. If someone says hello I startle.
I sold my house and bought him a new bike because he convinced me it was the smart and right thing to do.
If i stand up for myself in any way I'm the bad guy. I'm the crazy one..
How do you break contact when the person who is doing this has you totally under thumb. Due to him I have nothing and I am now at an age that it may be to late. Help.
Suicide has crossed my mind many times. I cannot and will not do that to my children. But I wish I could.

I have a sister that's a sociopath and I feel trapped in a living situation with her. Had I known she was a sociopath I never would have entered into a mortgage with her to hold on to my late mother's house. I had to block her on my phone to stop all the hateful and bullying text messages. That has given me some peace.

I have a sister who is this way. She has completely ruined her own life and cause severe damage in the lives of other people with her lack of a conscience and constant lies and manipulation. She even shot herself in the head and miraculously survived. She is now middle aged and living with our father who is elderly. He will not have the conversation about her in regards to the things she has done and chocks it all up to her having an alcohol problem. It has hurt me to my core to see him defend her the way he has but I think it comes down to guilt on his part, as described by others here, for her being the way she is so he gives her somewhere to live. It had a severe effect on my relationship to my father. Not only has she done countless evil things to me, including calling my job and playing them private phone conversations in an effort to have me fired, to accusing our father of sexually molesting her, her deceased mother of sexually molesting her, and even going so far as to marry her own mother's long-term exboyfriend, just to keep herself out of jail (he paid her probationary fines from multiple DUIs and arrests and she couldn't hold a job). He eventually threw her out and divorced her, but she was free to continue doing as she pleased because her fines had been paid off. She filed a false police report against her own sister and countless other things. This is a woman in her late 40s. It is unreal the depths of hell and evil that spring forth from her. I made the critical mistake of getting close to her and trying to analyze and understand her to see if I could actually help her. HUGE MISTAKE! Like you mention in your post, she makes a game or a feat out of dividing people and creating chaos and confusion. She would lie to me about our father or her sister or her mother or her "friends" to gain my sympathy, then turn around and lie to them about me and each other and so on and so forth. And not petty things but very serious accusations which would make people hate and despise one another because they believed her lies. It is heartbreaking and down right scary that people like this exist in our world and even more terrifying is that they seem to get away, unscathed with the things they do whereas anyone else would be in prison, or better yet, buried under it. Whenever I have attempted to warn people about her it has done nothing but get me in further trouble because she then knows you are disrupting her agenda and creates more hell and chaos for you. As others have stated, if you find someone like this in your life, get as far away as possible and make no contact whatsoever. Cut your losses and begin the healing process as there is no way to ever reconcile, forgive, or have a healthy relationship to someone with this disorder.
My biggest fear now is that when my father passes away that she will, like clockwork, play the victim, and if her sister doesn't come to her rescue, she will begin another reign of terror by gaining the sympathies of anyone she can and turning them against her sister or myself. I not only fear it but sense it coming because I have seen it countless times. I only know to keep God close and keep her away. I completely sympathize with you and know what your are going through.