The sadistic psychopath DO enjoy the harm they inflict, other psychopaths who are not sadistic might enjoy it too and get a rush, but I dont think in the same cruel conscience way a sadistic psychopath does...I dont know...to me it seems that they all enjoy harming us, but I guess there is a reason why they call one type of psychopath a sadistic one. Maybe it is that the sadistic one plans to harm and that others harm more spontaneous there and then in the moment...I really wonder what the difference really is because they all seem to get a thrill out of hurting us?

I think they are more excited getting a thrill harming us rather than be proud, but maybe they feel proud too

sorry I mean to say : "not in the same cruel deliberately way a sadistic psychopath does.*

Sorry to say! Yes! They do! They have so much hate in them that they enjoy harming others to justify themselves. Justify from what?? I have no clue!!! But that's how I've seen it!

its amazing to see the different in the pictures of a normal brain and a psychopathic brain, totally different..its nearly scary how someone can miss all this in the brain or be born with this brain..the two pictures of a normal brain and a psychopathic brain look like the brain masses have changed place

or that there is nothing there

I believe my ex found GREAT joy and satisfaction in making me miserable, from hurting me, and messing with my emotions to all the crazy crap he did....

....I think for him it was almost like a sick addiction. As hard as i was trying to make the marriage healthy and positive...he appeared to be trying equally hard to control it, manipulate it and make it miserably unpredictable.

I think he was quite proud of himself. In his mind he had won over a popular woman ( within a small town), who was strong and independent...... at times had broke me to my knees emotionally....I was his puppet on a string....devoted to him and making the relationship work. He thought he could do this to me forever. He was wrong.

Even if you did ask him, YOU wouldn't get a straight answer and you wouldn't get one that would bring you any comfort and/or peace of mind. I am sorry....

I feel your pain.

YES....I believe they do have great satisfaction at causing others suffering and pain. I used to watch my ex's behaviour with other people. He had his own business and enjoyed firing people, aggravating them and accuse them of not doing their job properly. He used to get a sick twisted look on his face when he succeeded in affecting them in a negative way. He used to get agitated when there wasn't enough drama going on so he'd get on the phone and complain about somebody from gas/electric companies, banks, shops, restaurants.......anything he could find to complain about he would. It got so bad I no longer wanted to go for meals or days out with him because he'd humiliate the staff or complain that the meal was unsatisfactory etc. I think that's one of the reasons I was afraid of leaving him because I'd seen how he behaved with others and knew I'd suffer the same. I was wrong though........I suffered a lot worse.

He took so much pleasure in making me and his children suffer in what ever way he could. He told his father he'd had the best 2 years of his life (after we separated) and I believe its because he was able to manipulate me, bully me and besmirch me more than he had anyone before me.

I no longer ask the 'why' questions, I just accept he's mentally ill and I know he is limited in how he can affect me now, but somebody else will be suffering at the hands of his behaviour. He used to love chaos, drama and hurting people and as far as I can see always will. It would make his day if he'd managed to get someone fired from their job or got a free meal in a restaurant because of his obnoxious arrogant behaviour. Makes my skin crawl thinking about it all.

i believe they do have alot of pride in what they do to others. They only appear to be meek when you first meet them

yes they probable are proud because they think they are better than us

I did not used to think so. I said for a long time, back when I thought he was only an N, that the one thing that did not fit was lack of empathy.

But boy was I wrong. After it was clear I was going through with the divorce, the gloves came off. He became cold, at times, cruel to the kids and me, and it was clear that he has little true empathy. He'd rather trick us than care about us. And I've seen that quick psychopathic smirk that says to me that he is revelling in each little win he can get. The scientists call it a "micro expression".

George Simon wrote a whole book on this topic of how they are misunderstood as damaged, tragic figures, when in reality they know what they do and enjoy it. The book is called "Wolves in Sheep's Clothing".

OMG, Elsacub, that is SO like mine. I also stopped going out to eat or drink with him because he always went through this routine, I guess to show off and try to get things for free. He would first instruct the restaurant employees on how to make his drink, often requesting the bartender come over to listen. Then he'd order something perhaps not on the menu, or instruct them on how to make the meal. Then, he'd complain about the meal, sometimes sending it back, or urging the kids to send theirs back if they did not like it. He'd make the maitre d' or hostess come over and lecture them about how they should run their restaurant. Then, they'd give him a free meal or take off the offending dish. Meanwhile, I was mortified. The kids learned a bad example, and saw nothing wrong with it, even if it made all of us wait for a whole new meal to be cooked. This went from happening every now and then to happening every time. So, I too stopped going out with him ever. So, I became the excuse he gave friends as to why we wouldn't go out.

So sorry for your pain.
Dont wish to ask him. They dont care, they dont have that emotional area in thier brain which can make them feel sorry or pity. The best revenge is to move on and be happy.
As for the questions in your mind go to.. the ablility to love, healing after psychopathic abuse. I found my answers there

its how they get off and feel good inside. sociopaths 100 % know exactly what they are doing when hurting someone else and they actually enjoy every second of it. that is why they are often referred to as monsters. don't ever doubt that one.

So Loved this article and wanted to share it with you :


From the book: http://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Fre...1740492&sr=1-1

One of the greatest myths surrounding psychopaths is this Hollywood pseudo-psychology that psychopaths are actually victims themselves. Whether it be an abusive past, an absent father, or something in between—the idea is that psychopaths cannot help their behavior. Sort of like depression, addiction, bipolar disorder, or autism.

This could not be further from the truth.

Unlike any other mental disorder, psychopaths are keenly aware of the impact that their behavior has on others. That’s half the fun for them—watching you suffer. They pick up on insecurities and vulnerabilities in a heartbeat, and then make the conscious choice to exploit those qualities. They know right from wrong, and simply choose to steamroll straight through it.

The psychopathic relationship cycle is not some accidental byproduct of insensitivity and emotional thickness. It is a calculated, personalized process that the psychopath uses to methodically torture his victims. To watch the kind & cheerful fall from grace, for no other reason than some easy entertainment.

You must imagine the time and planning that goes into mirroring someone else’s hopes and dreams. He spends months—sometimes years—playing the role of a completely different person. All for one end game: your destruction. He did not feel any glimpse of love with you, even when he claimed you were the only one who had made him feel this way. No, the entire time, he was just watching and observing you. Patiently waiting for the fun to start. Did you notice as soon as you fell in love and became comfortable in the relationship, that’s when the emotional abuse started? From there, you spent the rest of the relationship frantically trying to revitalize the soul mate he once pretended to be.

The problem is, many survivors equate his insatiable drive for attention with some sort of childlike insecurity. But he is not insecure. He loves himself. He loves the way he looks, the way he can trick everyone around him, and the way you begged for him. You were not fulfilling some sort of void within his broken soul. He has no soul. He wanted to be worshipped and nothing else. He’s not a lost little boy hiding behind a tough-guy persona—and his disorder is not a defense mechanism for deep-seated fragilities. You’re never going to find a “soft spot” within him. Just endless darkness.

At some point, you must stop thinking along the lines of “I’ll go No Contact because it’ll take away his narcissistic supply.” This implies that you still (or ever did) fulfill some sort of personal need within him. You don’t, and you never will. He does not seek out attention from others to inflate his ego. It’s already fully inflated, and I can assure you it’ll never deflate.

He wants your attention so that he can consume you, and then destroy you. Forget about supply. He saw you as disposable trash. And given the chance, he might recycle you, but it’s never because he needs you.

And what’s more, your healing process should not revolve around giving or withholding attention from someone else. You should be going No Contact because you genuinely believe that you deserve better. This is someone who manipulated, lied, abused, and deeply hurt you. As you develop self-respect, you should come to understand that this is all more than enough reason to remove someone from your life—permanently.