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Hi All,
I am new to this site. I need some help!! I am a vegetarian for 9 months now, hopefully to turn Vegan at some point this year. My reason is for the cruelty involved in this industry. It's disgusting and I can't bear it. Every day I think about how animals are being tortured at every second of the day. It's really hard for me because i get so angry. I also dont really have a support system. My boyfriend of 8 years tells me to just eat meat. He will NEVER become a vegetarian. He even refuses to try some of my food. I just ask him to take a bite and he wont. I tell him all the time about the horrific, unnecessary torture that animals endure for his pleasure. He says its the way of life. I cant even tell you how infuriating that gets me when he says that!!!! I have no one around me that is a vegetarian. And when I tell someone I am a vegetarian, they always end up telling some damn story about how aniamls are killed for meat and how much they LOVE meat!! It's so freaking rude and I just done understand why they do that and I want to punch them in the face!! Does this happen to anyone else or do I just associate with idiots!!?? Sorry I am ranting on.. So one of my reasons I am on here is that I still have to buy/cook meat for the boyfriend and to me if feel like my having to buy/cook meat just cancels out the whole reason why i dont eat it in the first place. Does anyone else have this issue? I dont know what to do and it really is eating me up inside!! Please help!
I am new to this site. I need some help!! I am a vegetarian for 9 months now, hopefully to turn Vegan at some point this year. My reason is for the cruelty involved in this industry. It's disgusting and I can't bear it. Every day I think about how animals are being tortured at every second of the day. It's really hard for me because i get so angry. I also dont really have a support system. My boyfriend of 8 years tells me to just eat meat. He will NEVER become a vegetarian. He even refuses to try some of my food. I just ask him to take a bite and he wont. I tell him all the time about the horrific, unnecessary torture that animals endure for his pleasure. He says its the way of life. I cant even tell you how infuriating that gets me when he says that!!!! I have no one around me that is a vegetarian. And when I tell someone I am a vegetarian, they always end up telling some damn story about how aniamls are killed for meat and how much they LOVE meat!! It's so freaking rude and I just done understand why they do that and I want to punch them in the face!! Does this happen to anyone else or do I just associate with idiots!!?? Sorry I am ranting on.. So one of my reasons I am on here is that I still have to buy/cook meat for the boyfriend and to me if feel like my having to buy/cook meat just cancels out the whole reason why i dont eat it in the first place. Does anyone else have this issue? I dont know what to do and it really is eating me up inside!! Please help!
Thanx for the reply. My boyfriend isnt trying to push my button, he's just an idiot to be quite honest. He has no idea what it is like to feel passionate about something- anything for that matter. And I can tell you he wont go for the "you buy/cook your own meat" thing. I think if we had met and I was a vegetarian and I layed down that law in the first place it would be different and who knows we might not still be together. But I could try and see what he says.
Years ago I let my adult son move in with me and his meat eating got nasty fast because the grease gets onto the walls and splatters on the floor and I often had to wash his dirty meat dishes and the meat gets onto everything and it smells too.
I really wanted to have a celebration when my son moved out except I chose not to let him know how happy it made me.
So you have a BIG problem with your BF.
congratulations for remaining a vegetarian in spite of the difficult environment.
But the result of me not eating almost no meat is that we buy less of it. So, what I do buy higher quality (local, more humane) It's not perfect, but it certainly helps.
Diet is kind of like politics and religion...it's something that people get incredibly passionate about and they try to overwhelm people that disagree with them by using stubbornness and loud voices.
As for your bf, you can draw the hard line and force him to do all the meat handling himself (heck, he might rise to the occasion), or you could relax and give him a chance to maybe catch up to see your point of view. Like I said earlier, people get very defensive when you poke at their worldview.
And if it comes down to it, you might need to decide whether your relationship with him or your passion for your diet is more important.
Good luck.
Underneath all their sarcasm and bullying, meat eaters do feel guilty about their bad habits...I'm convinced of it. Why else would they go out of their way to harass vegetarians? When you give people a guilty conscience about something, they tend to get hostile.
I give it right back to them. I told a doctor I was going to have a carrion-free Thanksgiving, and he really turned against me after that. Good riddance, he wasn't that good of a doctor anyway.
I've been a vegetarian most of my life, so I've had to deal with tons of abuse. The best way is to have your own barbs ready to go, so they get tired of being jabbed and drop the subject. Like when they talk about the myth that humans evolved on a diet of meat, I tell them that all our close relatives among the mammals are vegetarians...except for one. It's a primate that eats a lot of meat, so maybe that's the direction meat-loving humans are going in their evolution. Those meat-eating primates are called baboons.