I was at work the other day and my coworkers were having a conversation about some of our clients. For context, we specialize in home organization and furnishings. One client was being discussed regarding his move to a new home after he decided to put his elderly mother in assisted living since he couldn’t put up with “changing her poopy diapers”. My coworkers then went on to say things like “if I get to that point, just shoot me. There’s no reason to stick around if I can’t control myself anymore.” 

The coworkers that were involved in this discussion are all in their 50s. I’m in my 30s and have been urinary incontinent for 3 or 4 years, but none of them know about it. So Unbeknownst to them, I’m standing there in a diaper while they assert how worthless life is after you go back into diapers. 

It should probably be pointed out that one of the people taking part in the discussion is my own father. He doesn’t know all the intimate details about my medical history, and I prefer to keep all that private anyway. 

I guess I’m just bummed out that these kind of discussions are going on. If I asserted myself in that situation, they’d be more conscious about what they were saying, but only to my face. I’m sure they’d have the same conversations behind my back, only my name would get inserted into them. 

Does anyone else ever experience similar situations around unknowing friends or family? How does that make you feel?