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I'm just a regular guy with moderate to severe incontinence, after my prostatectomy a few years ago. I have a great solution for men (that I address in my post on 2/10/18) and a promising management solution for you, which begins with wearing a liner a night. You did not mention that in your post. The other little known fact that many may not realize is that gravity pulls straight down. If you sleep on your back, as I do, you will definitely find less leakage at night. Once you roll over for some unspecified period, you'll be on your own, however. Regarding fluid intake, it's quite obvious that not drinking much from late afternoon to bedtime will help...and that includes not eating soup at dinner, by the way. The next day, slightly dehydrated by morning, you start replacing that fluid...and don't stop until mid afternoon. I hope these management tricks work for you as they do for me...every day.
Best wishes, Fynlee

This sound familiar to me and I found out it was due to stress and anxiety. I wet maybe about once a week, but decided to wear diapers to bed because it’s easier to deal with than a mess. My wife is supportive and actually rather I wear than risk getting her wet.

Fynlee I do have bed liners and a protective covering, I’m not so much worried about that as I am about the wetting itself

I understand fully and so continue to seek that solution, be it stress related or an issue with your pelvic floor muscles (don't forget the kegel exercises, which may help). But, in the mean time do everything right to manage the issue. we have to play the cards we're dealt and control what we can. There may be other ideas (such as no alcohol), but definitely do what I had mentioned earlier so that you will settle into a routine that is predictable and manageable, importantly keeping stress to a minimum. D.

As you are looking for a possible medical solution, you really need to be looking at what type of protection would be best for you and your husband. You could start out using the adult pull-ups with an absorbent pad on the bed. There is no reason to ruin a good mattress. If that combination does not work, you may want to try some samples of adult Briefs (diapers) with tabs.

Also take a look at the Incontinence Resource Center Primer on Incontinence protection: http://www.incontinentsupport.org/primer_index.php

I have been using adult diapers for overnight protection for several years now and my wife and I can finally get a good night's sleep. It has removed a huge stress for both of us. A really good site for product samples is Northshore Care: http://www.northshorecare.com/ Please let us know how you are doing.

I only wet till about 4 then was dry for several 50,s then started wetting again due to being a diabetic.There is nothing can be done so use diapers from Northshore.

I would keep seeking medical advice but for the time being I would use a tape on incontinence brief. It is a lot easier to deal with these issues when it is contained.

So sorry You are going through this. Keep trying to get to the root cause of it. Lots of info here. And advice from drs. I'm a disabled mother. And have had issues with incontinence for 23 years at least. At this point I'm completely incontinent day & night. Pads , Briefs(diapers) Go a long way. to at least keeping Your bed dry. I sleep in a hospital style bed on a incontinence pad. The better more expensive disposable briefs. & Booster pads can help wick the fluid (urine) Away from Your body better. Helps to sleep through the night and not feel wet as badly. It is quite embarrassing. But so is wet sheets and even more so if You are sleeping beside Your husband. Limiting fluid intake can be a problem too. It can lead to UTIs and dehydration. My caregiver and Husband help Me make it through the night. With the Tranquility overnight booster pads. Inside a Tranquility ATN overnight brief. I wear the size large brief. And We occasionally use a size extra large over the large brief if I'm going to Be in My chair for a extended period of time. Or overnights. My husband only wakes to check on Me once in the middle of the night. I am usually not even aware. And make it through the night from like 9:00 to 6:00 without a issue or needing to be changed. unless I have a bowel event. This normally keeps My bed dry. and the pad I sleep on is actually more for changes then leaks. Even with the best planning and protection. Complete incontinence You will occasionally have wet or messy leaks. But that's thankfully kept to a minimum.

Like you I am an every night bed wetter. I wet the bed as a child and also into my teens. Then was pretty reliably dry for ten years before a spinal injury changed things. That was 30+ years ago and my bladder problems have grown worse over the years. From the outset I have used the all in one disposable nappy type protection and am fortunate to get them on the NHS. No more disturbed nights (though I do have the occasional leaks or need to change in the night), dry beds as I also use a washable bed pad and during the day much more confidence that I am effectively managing the problem. If you are in the UK speak to the continence specialist and they can help prescribe appropriate protection. I accept I have no solution and so manage my incontinence the best way I can. I was fed up with wet beds and plastic sheets. Going back to wearing nappies was the best thing I did. Good luck and best wishes.
Anthony