Hello Kathy. Firstly, welcome to the group. I have been a member here for a while, and the people that are on this site are very helpful. It sounds like your husband is having similar problems as me. I have had a bed wetting problem all of my life. I was an every night wetter thru most of my childhood, finally stopping when I was 20 years old. I was completely dry between ages 20 and 40. I married my wife shortly after I turned 40, and it wasn't long before my bed wetting came back. It started slowly at first, and within the course of one year, became a nearly every night occurrence. Shortly after this, I began having some daytime accidents. Again, it started off very slowly in frequency and volume. Over time, it has become a daily struggle with both day and night time wetting. When my night time wetting first started, my wife encouraged me to make an appointment with a urologist. The doctor took a bunch of tests and could find nothing wrong. He proscribed a number of different pills, none of which worked. In order to keep our bed dry, I resorted to wearing diapers at night. After the day time accidents began to appear, I consulted the urologist again. Once again, the doctor could find nothing wrong. My doctor attributed the possible cause to older age in which the urinary sphincter muscle is stretched out and can no longer hold the urine in as the pressure on the bladder increases. At this point in time, I am in my mid-60's and fully urinary incontinent. I had to resort to wearing diapers 24/7. Fortunately, I have a very supportive wife who does not care that I have to wear diapers. Also, the quality disposable diapers that they have out there are very effective at stopping urine leakage onto clothes and furniture. If I can offer a couple of suggestions, first and foremost, be supportive of his feelings and respect his dignity. Secondly, if he has not yet done so, please encourage him to see a urologist. If I can answer any additional questions, please DM me.

Welcome Kathy. Finding some kind of protection seems a good start. A good way to start the search for suitable protection is the Internet. Typing 'How to choose incontinence wear' into your search engine will reveal much useful advice but it will be as well to remember that most of it is posted by firms who sell incontinence products. A click on incontinence pants will reveal some of the enormous variety. This can be followed by choosing a few of what look the closest to your needs; then a click on these sites to follow through with your requirements - size, level of absorption, appearance, cost ....
but be aware that the illustrations are, in many cases, not very accurate.

Berry, thank you for the advise.

Welcome Kathy. I hope You find what works. I don't wish incontinence on anybody.

Welcome Kathy,
Having a supportive and understanding partner is so important as incontinence can be very isolating. Like your husband I am also very lucky to have an amazingly supportive and understanding wife of almost 31 years. I became incontinent as a result of a spinal injury in my mid 20s but had also been a bedwetter into my teens. I would encourage your husband to speak to his GP as it’s important to make sure there is not an underlying medical problem causing his leaky bladder. NHS Trusts also have specialist nurse continence advisers and they might be easier to talk to first off. I certainly found that and they have always been really helpful and understanding.
I hope you and your husband get the support you need.