Urinary Incontinence Support Group

Urinary incontinence is the involuntary excretion of urine from one's body. It is often temporary, and it almost always results from an underlying medical condition. Stress, functional, and urge incontinence are the most common forms. Share with other support group members and learn from their stories and experiences.

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gtg2468
gtg2468
Had a very embarrassing frustrating experience today I have Terrible urge incontinence where out of nowhere ill get the over whelming urge to urinate and I don't have much time to react it forces me to wear diapers at times but also I have had to relieve myself in public. Embarrassingly. Yesterday I was on my way home from a long day of work and I live in an area where parking is terrible and I was driving around for some time looking for a spot when the urge hit me unexpectedly. I found a spot rather far from my home and after walking a few blocks knew I wasn't gonna make it. Not wanting to wet and being so uncomfortable I ducked into an alley to relieve myself hoping no one would see which isn't and easy task being I'm a heavy female. While taking care of myself 2 police officers walked by and saw and scolded me and wrote me a ticket for public urination without even giving me a chance to explain I have a medical issue. I was terrible embarrassed but does anyone think its worth it to maybe try and fight it and get a doctors note ? Has anyone else had a similar situation ? Sorry for the long rant. This is the only place I can comfortably talk about my issues thanks for reading and I thank you in advance for any support . - Jen
nicolas2
nicolas2
In UK our Bladder & Bowel Foundation can issue a "Just Can't Wait card stating we have a medical condition. We also have "MedicAlert" bracelets/pendant discs. Maybe try Simon Foundation USA based in Chicago - and/or one of the medical tag companies? Good luck!
deleted_user
deleted_user
i have MS which makes me incontinent. when i could still walk, i was shopping in Wal-Mart when i had to suddenly go. i was in the women's clothing section and pee started running down my legs. luckily i was wearing a long black skirt. i knew that walking towards the bathroom would only leave a trail of pee. so i stood in one spot and waited for it to be over. then i walked away quickly.
Phil603
Phil603
So sorry to hear that you had to go through such a terrible experience. Actually you went through two terrible experiences losing control in public was probably not as bad as the way you were treated by the police officers.
It makes me so angry and frustrated to hear about this. Like you I have problems holding on, and like you I resort to diapers when I know that Ill need them but we dont always know. How can we? And what are we supposed to do when we get caught? Soak our clothes? Is that really more socially acceptable than finding a quiet place to go? Is that how people expect us to cope or are we just expected to stay out of sight at home?
More and more I do stay at home. I get so anxious at leaving the house. More and more I resort to using diapers to give me the security to go anywhere Ive started to realise that often Im using them to control my anxiety rather than my bladder and why because I so fear the shame of an accident and the ridicule of others, and the humiliation. I wish it was easier to be open about how hard this is.
alphagb
alphagb
I'm so sorry you had this experience. I have had the same urge incontinence and I now wear diapers 24/7. It is so much better than having an accident or having to constantly look for a restroom. I am so much more relaxed and use my diaper most of the time. It is so much better than my bladder controlling me! Just make the decision to wear diapers whenever you are out and you will feel so much better. Let us know how you are doing.
Jack67
Jack67
I agree once I made the decision to wear diapers full time it did make life much easier. I know it's a hard choice, I I would prefer not to wet myself, but that is how it is and a wet diaper is a much less embarrassing option than wet pants.
deleted_user
deleted_user
How rude of the cops :( Having had public accidents before, I know how embarrassing it can be.
Aeroplane78
Aeroplane78
I just wear a diaper all the time now. People noticed me every once and a while peeing in public but no one notices me when I go in the diaper. Great releaf when ever I need it. Because I also have the urge thing which comes and go as well as overflow, and stress type. Got injured in the Army with back and now.......Diapers. There are worse things though like getting you legs blown off by an I.E.D. and then still have to wear diapers. I have learned to embrace them now I like diapers.
Aeroplane78
Aeroplane78
I know why cops act like that though. It's because of drunk bums they just pee anywhere and that gets on the public and the cops who have to deal with them nerves. BUT YOU ARE NOT A BUM OR DRUNK AND THEY SHOULD OF SEEN THAT! PERIOD!
ST50
ST50
I won't chance it now during the day without protection because from feeling the need to go to actually wetting can sometimes be only a couple of minutes and sometimes seconds. I've had to pee in some strange places but now holding isn't an option anymore.
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