Unemployment Support Group
Recently unemployed or frustrated with the job search? Unemployment can affect more than just the bank account - it has a negative effect on motivation and self-esteem, even sense of identity. This community addresses the challenges associated with unemployment and how to cope.
Hello,
I been here for a while and left more lost than anything.
My doctor wants me to be active on this site because my mental issues surround this problem.
So far it just has gotten worse because I havent been able to find solutions or explore my mind.
I have a ton of questions, but neglected to ask them due to the fact its not getting to the right people.
They got me under suicide watch and know that I like burning myself.
I am trying hard to be positive at the same time rational about life by giving less emphasis on jobs, but its hard when everyone around you is suffering from the lies being stated by our government on jobs.
Its not about me because there are people in worse off shape than I am.
I want to network, get up job searched, etc.but the reality of the situation is who I am going to apply to and for what? $7.50? No insurance or benefits?
Applying to a job now a days is pretty much like a circus act, I am not hiring them so, give them this assessment, their resume is a joke lets trash it for no reason, lets not explain the problems and errors we have who we wanted.
As soon as an individual cracks under these and other circumstances, they derange, hes /shes crazy, they were too lazy to look for work, they are full of excuses.
The job market is so self-centered and competitive that jobs are scarce and a rarity.
If jobs are so plentiful and easily available why there still a lot of people struggling to find or locate a job in their city?
Why I am still negative when I want to job search?
I been here for a while and left more lost than anything.
My doctor wants me to be active on this site because my mental issues surround this problem.
So far it just has gotten worse because I havent been able to find solutions or explore my mind.
I have a ton of questions, but neglected to ask them due to the fact its not getting to the right people.
They got me under suicide watch and know that I like burning myself.
I am trying hard to be positive at the same time rational about life by giving less emphasis on jobs, but its hard when everyone around you is suffering from the lies being stated by our government on jobs.
Its not about me because there are people in worse off shape than I am.
I want to network, get up job searched, etc.but the reality of the situation is who I am going to apply to and for what? $7.50? No insurance or benefits?
Applying to a job now a days is pretty much like a circus act, I am not hiring them so, give them this assessment, their resume is a joke lets trash it for no reason, lets not explain the problems and errors we have who we wanted.
As soon as an individual cracks under these and other circumstances, they derange, hes /shes crazy, they were too lazy to look for work, they are full of excuses.
The job market is so self-centered and competitive that jobs are scarce and a rarity.
If jobs are so plentiful and easily available why there still a lot of people struggling to find or locate a job in their city?
Why I am still negative when I want to job search?
The Free Market in America has been killed by the Federal Reserve and the Subprime Housing Crash.
you write your doctor wants you to be active on this site. What do you want yourself? Do you feel/perceive that this site and its people are offering something of value to you (like for instance I do)?
My idea when reading your post was that there may be several options. (My idea, I do not know you and your personal circumstances that is why it is an idea of mine.) You can believe/trust in this site and open your doors (mind, heart) for the possibilities it may offer. You can discuss with your doc that you find this site making things worse for you (that is what I read out of your lines). You can look for another self-help-community of your own choice. You can stay sceptical, hesitant and neglecting to ask the questions that are on your mind in tons...
If I were you I'd go for option 1. Not because a doc said so to me. Because there are great and supporting people on here. Also the upfront sharing of one's experiences is a precious service/support in my eyes. It shows others that they are in company with their problem(s). A big part of suffering to me is feeling so darn alone and as if nobody else shares these experiences. That is not true, though. Whatever it is you suffer from, here are others who share this and know about it.
If I were you I'd look for my number one major question right now. Then I'd write it down without a "why" in it. Why-questions mostly look for someone responsible in my perception.
Instead of "Why I am still negative when I want to job search?" I would phrase it like this:
"What are my negative emotions right now?" without judging them or trying to make them go away. They will go once you identified them and accept their existence.
Maybe you do not like to be told what to do when not convinced. The doctor thing. It seems important to me because you started your post with it. So you can work on being convinced to be here or there.
A solution - once you know the negatives - may be a question (and answer to it): What do I need now to feel a bit more positive? On a scale from 0 - 10. How negative do you feel? 7 would be pretty negative. What would you need to get down to 6?
Those are just examples.
Relating to the state or government and comparing oneself can have a paralyzing impact. "Why keep trying" is an expression of that (for my perception).
"Keep focusing" would be it for me. Our language and way of asking our questions can become a key...
Wishing you all the best
N
PS
When I asked myself: What has been the light in your being jobless so far? The answer was: I was given the time and chance to "clean up" my inner mess from childhood and go through a deep and very demanding process of mourning the past. I had not even known that I was an ACON (adult child of Narcissists). The stuff that led to my being jobless was about narcissism, too. So wherever all this will lead me to - I was given the chance to understand something about myself and my roots. I feel this was crucial for the rest of my life... I had time to read tons, be on sites like this one and just understand myself better...