Twins, Triplets & More Support Group
Triplets & More","This community connects people seeking information and experiences about multiple births. Different names for multiple birth are used, depending on the actual multiple. Common multiples are two and three, known as twins and triplets respectively. Share your thoughts and find whatever support you need."
I am expecting twins sometime within the next two months. I will be 32 weeks along on Saturday so it is coming close. I am having so many different emotions right now. These two babies are such a blessing for us and we went through In-vitro to get them here, but at times I can't help but feel a little depressed. I also have an almost 5 year old son who had colic for the first 4 months. I experienced post partum depression during that time and I felt like I just wasn't a good mother during that time because I had such a hard time being happy with my son. After the colic faded, I quickly got over my depressed state and I love and cherish him so much. He really is my everything, but I still feel guilty about his first four months.
Now here I am expecting twins very soon and I am so scared that I am going to fall back into that depression. I'm also worried that this time it isn't just going to be myself tied down, but also my 5 year old. He's been an only child and unless I set up playdates and activities where there will be other children, he too will be tied down to these babies which doesn't seem fair to him.
I would love any advice I could get on what I can do to make life a little easier on us for the first few months. Did any of you have these feelings too?
Now here I am expecting twins very soon and I am so scared that I am going to fall back into that depression. I'm also worried that this time it isn't just going to be myself tied down, but also my 5 year old. He's been an only child and unless I set up playdates and activities where there will be other children, he too will be tied down to these babies which doesn't seem fair to him.
I would love any advice I could get on what I can do to make life a little easier on us for the first few months. Did any of you have these feelings too?
I know that its all very scary. Also having your son as an only child can bring on sad thoughts since its only been him for 5 years. That is so normal.
Its going to be HARD. I will be honest. The first few months is a fog for me. I think the key is to get your son involved as a big helper. This way he wont feel left out or jealous of his new siblings. Life will change but its not all for the worst either. Just know that we are all here to support you. I wrote lots of journals and leaned on my DS sisters A LOT!