I know what you mean. It becomes a big part of what we think about. It's good advice to just see what happens at first. But at the same time, I think it's ok if you calculate when you ovulate so that you can atleast better your chances and know when ou are most likely to concieve. You can count back 14 days from your last period and that is when you ovulated most likely. Keep in mind everybody's cycles vary. I ovulate on day 18 but some women ovulate on day 14 of their cycle. It will happen when it's supposed to and just try to have fun in the process. Wishing you luck and sending you lots of baby dust. Hugs, Liz

I'm a planner and a calculating kind of person so when my husband and I tried the "let's just see what happens" thing, it drove me nuts. Now we're using ovulation test strips. I'm doing it more so I can track my wacky cycle, and so I can know when might be a decent time to be able to test for pregnancy. There are a few things you can do (on your own) to watch for physical signs of ovulation without using any kind of test strips. I've read that you're likely to have a stronger sex drive when you're ovulating. (This makes sense to me; nature's way of taking care of things.) You can also monitor your cervical mucus. You can read about it online, I won't go in to detail. You could search "physical signs of ovulation." I've also heard about the every other day strategy with the idea that sperm can live and hang out for 3 days. Good luck!