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Ayreish
Ayreish
Hello, everyone! I just joined today after going through (and still going through) what seems to be my usual monthly insanity. Long story short, from the very first day I got my period I've had trouble with it and was only recently diagnosed with PCOS. My doctor and gynecologist both thought Metformin would help since hubby have decided to TTC. It seems like the only thing the Metformin is working on is making me crazy every month! I don't see AF very often, and when I do its usually because I've taken Progesterone for a week to bring her around. On the months I don't see her, I get what I've been calling mock pregnancy symptoms with the whole nausea, tenderness, etc. and then feeling so much disappointment when I take a HPT and see that BFN. This month seems to be different with stronger nausea, and some interesting cravings along with this bloated/fullness feeling in my stomach. I'm supposed to see AF any day now, assuming I'm on a 28-30 day cycle after the progesterone. I was going to wait until Tuesday to take a HPT but I caved today and did one we purchased from the local dollar store.... another BFN on that one. My first reaction was that disbelieving "Seriously?!" followed by "Ok, that's fine. Maybe it's too early or the test is wrong?" followed by me breaking down into tears and doing one of those bargaining prayers just to be able to have just 1 healthy baby. The praying is a new step for me, which I guess means I care a lot more about this than I thought I did despite working out a time-table and plan with my gyn. My husband is a great guy who is very loving and supportive, but he just doesn't understand what it is I'm going through with the emotional rollercoaster. I guess I just needed to get things out with people who can relate and offer support, so thanks for listening/reading! I'm starting to feel a little better already...
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My prayers are with you on this roller coaster of a journey! XOXO
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You and I are in a similiar situation. I completely understand the rollercoaster. I read your other post, hopefully Clomid will be the answer to your prayer. My husband and I are still fairly early in this TTC (4 months)...hopefully everything looks up for both of us, SOON!
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its hard for men to understand. we have trouble doing what every living creature was made to do... procreate. on top of dealing with that stress, i didn't feel like a woman because my hormones were so thrown off. hang in there and come up with a game plan with your doc. keep the lines of communication open with your dh. you will get your bfp in due time!
Ayreish
Ayreish
Thanks everyone! Well, I do have a plan in place with my dr so I'm not worried about what happens if I'm not pregnant. Its just the whole rollercoaster ride of emotions this week. Logically I'm fine. Emotionally I'm a total mess right now and that just makes it all the more frustrating when hubby is nice and calm as he focuses on the positive and I'm not. But we do talk, and I keep reminding myself that someday all this insanity will result in a little miracle.
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I hope you feel better! Hang in there.
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I felt the same way when I stopped taking BC and was trying to get pregnant. My cycles were so screwed up and after the dr. put me on metformin my cycles became more regular they were never the 28 day cycle like we all wish to have mine were like 41 days. It was miserable, but I was able to pin point when I was going to ovulate (I always confirmed this with an Ovulation predictor kit) and after 18 months of being on a crazy rollercoaster I am now 7 1/2 weeks pregnant. Just praying that my little bean sticks.

So I just want to give you a glimmer of hope. Please don't give up or get frustrated and stop buying HPTS. I found that when I stopped buying these I felt more relaxed about my situation.

Good Luck with everything.
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Hi Hon, I'm sorry you are struggling with all of this. It's tough, but it sounds like you are taking the right approach in working with your doctor.

Try to keep in mind that some of this crazy emotional roller coaster is hormonal - and try not to judge yourself for it. You can't help being a bit nutso with all these hormonal changes any more than you could help breaking out if you had the chicken pox - it just comes with the territory!

I'll keep praying for you and your hubby. I'm glad you have such a nice man to share your heartaches with! And there is hope, don't ever forget it. I'm pregnant for the 3rd time since June of 08. Today I heard a heartbeat for the first time.

Keep the faith, sweetie!
Ayreish
Ayreish
So yesterday I went out and bought a couple more HPTs from the Dollar Store so I could do a couple more tests to see if all these symptoms are actually symptoms or just something else. Imagine my surprise when I woke up ready to take one of the tests and found the box empty! I mean really, who steals a HPT that you can get for $1?! Luckily the other box had the test inside so I was able to get it done and a couple minutes later I had another BFN. Ok, I'm still sick with dill pickle cravings and all the other signs I've been having but I'm not pregnant? Part of me is really disappointed and frustrated. Part of me is wondering about the accuracy of the tests since I personally know a handful of people who kept getting negatives well into their pregnancies... one of which was 8 months along taking a HPT for grins and giggles. I just can't imagine why I'm feeling this way if I'm not actually pregnant. Like I said, I have never craved dill pickles until now. So I will give it more time and maybe call my DR in a week or two if I'm still feeling sick. Maybe its something else going on that we can look into if it does turn out that I'm really not pregnant?
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Did you try another brand? I took a $store one and got the faintest line possible, seriously I thought I was imagining it. I went out that night and bought a first response at took the test at 8:30p and the two lines showed up together and immediatly...there is a difference in a test's sensitivity...
Ayreish
Ayreish
The result I got from the test was clearly negative, which is why I'm wondering if my HcG levels aren't high enough or if something else is going on since I'm also getting some dizziness when I exert myself (ie: doing cardio on the treadmill). So this weekend I will be taking another brand and see what happens, then probably next week call my DR. Hopefully I get some answers soon!
Ayreish
Ayreish
Just wanted to update things... I didn't take the other HPT like I was planning. I decided to give it some time instead. And since most of my symptoms have gone away, I'm thinking the first couple tests were probably right anyway and I'm not pregnant. That being said, I still crave dill pickles which I still think is odd. But, I called my DRs office and asked for a referral to another GYNO. I figure it will take a couple months to get in anyway, so I should have an appointment set up in time to start taking Clomid as suggested by my previous GYNO. I'm really trying to just relax and let things happen as they will, but its really difficult to do!
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I was in a very similar situation. I was diagonised with PCOS January 2009- Was put on Metformin, and my cycles were 41 days. I was no where near the 28 day cycle...Don't give up hope with Metformin. I was on the medicine for 9 months and am not 9 1/2 weeks pregnant.
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I was put on Metformin when I first was diagnosed with PCOS 6 years ago and it didn't do what they figured it would. Maybe my body is just that off. I don't know. So when my doctor suggested doing it again, but instead referred me to the OB/GYN first, I was all for the new appointment. I talked with her and found out that I simply don't ovulate and it was just luck that i got pregnant with my son 7 years ago! I haven't had a period in years! I take that back...I got a nasty long one after my gastric bypass surgery almost 2 years ago, but that wasn't a regular situation where I'd gotten it. Anyhow, I really sympathize with you on this PCOS thing and it causing difficulties. I've noticed, in being here just one day, that different treatments work for different people. For me, the Metformin did nothing, but I'm seeing for others it was the key to helping them! I'm now on Provera and Clomid to help me ovulate and get pregnant. It's been a long road though. I had sex for 3 years before conceiving my son 7 years ago, and then for 14 months after our son, and now for 6 months with no luck. Now...if they just woulda figured out I wasn't ovulating way back when. LOL. I'm really feeling for you. I was getting goofy craving for a couple months in a row for no apparent reason and had the clinic run a test on me and they both came back negative. I was so let down. It's really a frustrating process, but many have gone before us and have either gotten pregnant or are currently pregnant, so we can have hope that this whole process does work itself out! I'm here for you if you ever need to talk!