Trying To Conceive Support Group
Whether you are just beginning your journey to create your family, or you have been trying for a few months, the TTC community will provide you with a group of like minded people who can help. It takes up to a year for the average fertile couple to achieve a successful pregnancy, and here at DailyStrength you will find information and support while you are waiting for...
Hi everyone. I've just had a good cry and looked up support groups for women ttc and here I am. I've been married for 2.5 years to my high school sweetheart after knowing him for 19 years this year. I have had a failed marriage that lasted 5 years and I'm 33 years old, a little overweight (I could lose 10lbs) and I have PCOS. That's my backstory. My husband and I have been "trying" for about a year and a half. He says he wants a family with me and everytime I get upset about it not happening, he insists he does want a baby. He's as gentle and caring as husbands come but what irks me is that he will say all the right things and I know his heart is in the right place but when it comes down to actually ttc we just hardly ever. Sex is like a treat. Once a month sometimes. We have been to the gyno and he understands that we must try often to increase our chances of conceiving but he just sleeps too much. It doesn't even have to be at night..he's always sleeping!! I don't know if something is medically wrong with him but he has always been like this with the sleeping. I have tried to talk with him and nothing changes. I cry about it and he sees and nothing changes. It makes me think that he either doesn't care about me and how this hurts me or that he doesn't want a baby (like my 1st husband) but he doesn't want to tell me. I feel like he gives me empty promises knowing fully well that he won't be following through with any of it. I just don't know what to think anymore. Maybe I am not meant to be a mother.
https://www.inspire.com/Celia_R17/
I am so sorry that you are having a hard time right now. I agree with Celia, and the first thing I thought of was that your hubby might be struggling unknowingly with a hormone imbalance or a thyroid problem, which would affect both his need for extra sleep, and lower his libido. It sounds like you two have a long-standing relationship, so I really don't think he would just be telling you what you wanted to hear if it weren't truly how he feels. The only other thing that might be going on is that when TTC, it does kind of take some of the spontaneity and romance out of sex, especially for our guys in my opinion. For us, it can feel even more romantic because of the thought that we are possibly creating a little human with the love of our life, but guys don't already have that separate maternal instinct driving them in the bedroom. He might still really want to have a little one, but also be scared about what that could potentially mean to the dynamics of your own relationship. These are just thoughts, obviously, you know him better than anyone. Also, have you tried talking to him about this when you aren't already upset? Maybe he would open up a bit more if he didn't feel so put on the spot, so to speak. Good luck to you, don't lose hope! (: