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I have had Endo, adhesions and PCOS since the age of 14,, my periods are usually all over the place. I had my lap in July and since then my periods have been sort more regular. The doctors couldn't remove it all when I had my lap however and they tell me it will be difficult to have children. I have been trying with my partner since the age of 15, young I know but I have always wanted to be a mother.
Now, my period is a month late, I'm peeing all the time, I am getting back pain, feeling sick in the mornings and evenings, feel tired, get hungry but don't want to eat, mood swings and am getting headaches. I haven't taken a test for fear of it being negative and my fianc is so supportive of all my choices I make. I have an appointment on Christmas eve to see how I'm doing after my lap (normal follow up appointment) should I wait until then to do the test?
I know if I do the test and it's negative I'll be more heartbroken then ever as I feel the endo pain slowly taking my chances of having children away day by day. But if I wait until Christmas eve and the doctor tells me I'm pregnant it would be the best thing I could possibly hear.. I'd really like some advice, my partner thinks I should do the test now but is also going through the same feelings as I am as to the results. I don't know what to do.. We've been trying for so long I don't think I can risk my heart being broken again.
Now, my period is a month late, I'm peeing all the time, I am getting back pain, feeling sick in the mornings and evenings, feel tired, get hungry but don't want to eat, mood swings and am getting headaches. I haven't taken a test for fear of it being negative and my fianc is so supportive of all my choices I make. I have an appointment on Christmas eve to see how I'm doing after my lap (normal follow up appointment) should I wait until then to do the test?
I know if I do the test and it's negative I'll be more heartbroken then ever as I feel the endo pain slowly taking my chances of having children away day by day. But if I wait until Christmas eve and the doctor tells me I'm pregnant it would be the best thing I could possibly hear.. I'd really like some advice, my partner thinks I should do the test now but is also going through the same feelings as I am as to the results. I don't know what to do.. We've been trying for so long I don't think I can risk my heart being broken again.
I also have endometriosis, during my last lap with a specialist they also diagnosed me with adenomyosis which is known to make conceiving / staying pregnant harder so I can completely relate to how you are feeling...every month it doesn't happen I feel like our chances are getting smaller and smaller.
I know how hard it is to test and not get what you were hoping for but it sounds like you are having a lot of pregnancy symptoms, especially with your period being late (I know PCOS can cause irregular cycles but you said they had become more regular).
I think you should consider taking the test now...If you aren't pregnant it might be better to find out now and perhaps you can ask to go for more testing to see if you are ovulating etc? However if you are you can celebrate your early Christmas present!
I know it's easy for me to say all this, I really do know how hard this journey is but it will be worth it in the end. I was a few days late this month and was convinced it was our month but it wasn't to be. I was really upset but now, a few days later, I am feeling more positive and am focusing my energy on the next cycle.
Try and stay strong and keep us posted, you are not alone.
Take care x
Will they do any tests for you? Or could you consider some sort of help with conceiving like ivf?
Sorry I can't be of more help x
I would imagine they are delaying treating you since you are young. That's ageism and it's awful. Can you switch providers? Do you have an endocrinologist for the PCOS? You might be able to get a referral to an RE from an endo. They wanted to send me there first thing. (I am however 36!)
Even though my partner and I have been trying for years they have told us to try naturally again for 6 months. That hasnt worked for years, why would it work now? They dont want to put us through ivf because I am young but in 6 months they said they will step in and help if im not pregnant by then. I think they will just give me some more crap about eating and weight and exercise and fob us off again.. They dont take me seriously..
Another period, another month of calender charting, another month of ovulation tests and negative pregnancy tests. It taking all the love out of having a baby.. :/