Trichotillomania (Hair Pulling) Support Group
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First off, how has everyone been? I know I haven't been on here in so very long, and I apologize in advance. I still read the emails I receive in reference to some people's journal updates and I want you all to know that I am so very proud of you! My hair is suddenly growing back fast, but I'm still pulling it. I'm happier with how it looks now, however. But I have two things that I would like opinions on.
One. I was speaking with my friend, we'll refer to him as A. I came out to him about my hair pulling (I always have a small fear people will be disgusted by it). He was not. But then he continued on to say "Actually that is kind of hot." Um... how is this hot? How is pulling hair out, strand by strand to the point of bald spots attractive in any way, shape, or form? I was angry about that but I let it go to resolve arguments.
Two. My boyfriend was having a tough day yesterday and he had FaceTimed me and said "I pulled some of my hair out... and sorry to say, but I get why you do it. It feels good." Now, if I'm in the wrong, please tell me, but I was extremely offended. I personally don't pull my hair out for any kind of stress relief. It in turn causes more stress for me. I cannot control it whatsoever. I physically can't stop. And the fact that he did that kind of p!sses me off, to be honest. "I get why you do it." No, you don't. You really really do not understand.
So that's my update. How are you all and what's your stance on the aforementioned scenarios?
One. I was speaking with my friend, we'll refer to him as A. I came out to him about my hair pulling (I always have a small fear people will be disgusted by it). He was not. But then he continued on to say "Actually that is kind of hot." Um... how is this hot? How is pulling hair out, strand by strand to the point of bald spots attractive in any way, shape, or form? I was angry about that but I let it go to resolve arguments.
Two. My boyfriend was having a tough day yesterday and he had FaceTimed me and said "I pulled some of my hair out... and sorry to say, but I get why you do it. It feels good." Now, if I'm in the wrong, please tell me, but I was extremely offended. I personally don't pull my hair out for any kind of stress relief. It in turn causes more stress for me. I cannot control it whatsoever. I physically can't stop. And the fact that he did that kind of p!sses me off, to be honest. "I get why you do it." No, you don't. You really really do not understand.
So that's my update. How are you all and what's your stance on the aforementioned scenarios?
I know what it's like to not be in control and just pull. I used to not even notice that I was doing it. It's taken me many years and a LONG time to even get to where I am today and finally have SOME control over something I've never been able to. It's a hard process BUT it CAN be done. So, if I were told that, I'd be very offensive as well. You're not in the wrong here. It's like telling a person with Tourette syndrome/GTS "I know why you have tics now!"
PS: Your friend is weird, haha. ;-)