Trichotillomania (Hair Pulling) Support Group
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so im 19 now and iv been pulling since i was 11. I’ve never ever told anyone that i pull my eyelashes out, I’ve always said its alopecia. I don’t want to tell anyone, its not something i could tell my parents. But recently i have started a new job and telling people why i have no eyelashes or them mentioning it to me is like a huge fear. I havent pulled for 2 days but my urge now is so strong. Iv only recently, this past month, actually looked into what my problem is, and I finally want to stop and im determined to stop. Just the urges are so strong and annoying. I always say to myself when my eyelashes grow back il love the way it makes me prettier and il stop pulling. So iv been using an eyelash enhancing serum that’s been working the last 2 days. But being 19 and going clubbing iv always put fake lashes onto the bare skin because im too insecure to go out out without wearing them. But now i have a new job and we are all going clubbing in a week, im struggling to decide if i should wear fake lashes or not. I dont want them to notice or for me to feel embarrassed that im wearing them and wouldnt want to be questioned but if im in a club id feel so insecure and ugly not wearing them. Im determined not to pull anymore i want my lashes back. I want to feel pretty. I want to feel confident. I want to feel normal and not like the outcast. I keep saying to myself that if i dont pull and my lashes grow a bit longer before this night out il wear lashes then after the night out hopefully a week without pulling will make it easier to stop after the first week. Im really sorry this is so long I just needed to get it off my chest. I just need some advice on how to stop the urges or what you guys do to distract yourself from the urges? Please help any suggestions are appreciated xxx
Also a fidget spinner works well too. Hope this helps
I believe in you.
When you're trying to resist to pull:
-Wear glasses if you have them while youre in the house
-After taking make up and/or getting ready for bed, put vaseline on you eyelashes cause I usually have more urge when eyelashes are dry and not slippery.
-Pull body hair instead of eyelashes (not like its not unwanted and some habits are better than others)
-When you have urge, scroll through pictures of luscious lashes on instagram or google images (I usually follow lash extension salons) and it'll motivate you and make you feel less inclined to make eyelids bald
-Rub knuckles together or playing with nails (or fake acrylic nails/tips) against desk and/or flat surface also repel you from pulling
When you have no eyelashes and are trying to cover up:
-Wearing magnetic eyelashes (the sandwich ones not the eyeliner) with waterproof eyeliner for when going out until you grow back lashes
-Wear tiny bit of eyeliner at your lash line and don't curl or wear mascara so it looks like natural state even if you only have a few lashes
When you have lashes but they are not as luxurious like everyone else's yet:
-Wear eyelash serum, its amazing and works after a few weeks
-Don't wear eyeliner or mascara on a normal day, it's easy to tell if they're not that thick and you're more likely to pull after taking off make up or picking mascara on eye later throughout the day. It's sometimes more empowering to go for natural look like wearing eye primer then foundation powder on eyelid (cause I get oily eyelids from pulling) then using an eye-curler with a touch of vaseline or eyelash serum after to hold it up. At any point you feel the urge to pull throughout the day, go to the bathroom and use your eye-curler so you aren't touching your eyes with fingers but also being productive in making eyelashes look nicer. It honestly has a better look cause it doesn't look like you're wearing makeup and you have lashes just as nice if you had mascara on.