well okay so the first thing is, that transitioning is less about what others see and more about what you see. You list as a tomboy and such, well that isnt far from a male, so ultimately as long as you bring up the fact that basically your just the same person however you may be doing some stuff like changing a name and so on they probably wont care to much in most cases. specially if its an androgynous name. Your son being as young as he is will be a benefit because he will really end up only knowing two males, not the switch in between at a young age, even at that young children tend to handle it better than adults who are set in their ways already. Kids are mutable. You have to decide in the end which is more important being happy as you, or being what they expect. But if you were going to do that you would have likely grown up being some little princess or something. My advice, go find a therapist and see them, get a diagnosis, decide how your path is going to go, if being called frank and having nothing else done is enough great, if you have to do more then youll know as time passes, but for here and now, you cant do anything without the therapist, and even then it takes time so you have time. You are going to be you no matter what.

Thank you, that's really helpful. Can I just go to any therapist or?

You can, however they may not know how to handle things like the letters. If you can find one with experience in gender matters you will be better off overall. Generally if you do a google search for Gender therapists in XCity XState, you will get a psychology today listing that should have people who deal in that. Note these therapists don't just do that, the handle things like depression or addiction and such as well, but they just have experience in treating gender matters. So it won't out you by going to one. That's just one function they provide out of a number so you can have any reason you want for choosing them.

Thank you

literally same though

I'm having the same problem. Ever since I was 14 I thought of the possibility of being a man, but I have kept it bottled up for so long. Even tried to be super feminine and couldn't understand why I didn't feel good about it. I recently got in a relationship with a man, and I feel like if I'm not at least read as female he'll lose interest in me. Even when he says he won't.

You're in my exact same boat. Honestly, I kinda feel like if he doesn't love you for you (as man, women, or alien fish) then he shouldn't be in your life. There are better, more accepting humans for you to love and to love you back. But I know it's a lot easier to say it, the thought of leaving my love, even if he shunned me for being a man, makes me wanna hop a pier lol. So it honestly depends on you.