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ComingOut33
ComingOut33
So.. I've been thinking about my life a lot lately, and i've decided that i identify more with guys, and i'm a girl. i came out to my parents as a lesbian and they're in denial, it's not discussed at all in our house. i've talked to my friends about being transgender and they say it makes a lot of sense, they know me better than any of my family. my best friend, a straight girl, said that i act more like a guy than a girl, and so have my ex gf's. i just don't know how to talk to my parents about it, or if i should even go through that shit with them again. i'm really confused and any advice would be appriciated.
deleted_user
deleted_user
When my brother decided to tell our parents, i sat down with him, so i could back him up and show my support.
he had gotten some tips from his counceler on what to say, and how they might react..i know he was told that our parents may grieve and feel like they have lost a child, but honestly it was not that bad..my mom said she had a feeling that he felt this way and excepted it..my dad soon excepted it also...they have to still love you no matter what.. you will always be their baby and gender wont change that.
deleted_user
deleted_user
nicely said Chelsea. I have the same problem with my parents. I came out as a lesbian in 2006 and kept feeling something still wasn't right. I've always idefied as male for as long as I can remember. I haven't come out to any of my family yet but I know they will love me because I'm still there child no matter what. Just follow your heart, it will never let you down.
ComingOut33
ComingOut33
thanks. my parents are extreme christians and they'll find ever excuse for me not to do this. but in the end, it's not their decision. they'll never accept this, but it's totally worth a shot. i'll talk to my sisters. thanks again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I just want to add when i decided to tell some of my family i thought about what parent i can tell which one took my coming out as a lesbian better. I told my father. At first he was thinking it was a stage and in some ways kinda still does but now i think he likes having a son me and him can goof off and do guy stuff. yet i still havent told me mom still kinda figuring that all out!!! good luck and just do it for yourself not anyone else but yourself!