Transgender Support Group
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Guess I wanted to say where I am at on this?
I'm technically female, but...feel intersexed between the ears. I identify as Androgyne.
I think there may be testosterone gel on the agenda. I want to deepen my voice, embiggen my muscles, and if a little scraggly facial hair can be arranged that would be nice...I dont want to go all the way masculine, but now I feel too...female.
...And I thought I was going to do that this coming year.
But I finally admitted to myself after being in denial and fightihg it for years... I want to pop out a kid.
It is far from an intellectually-made decision, because it surely ain't the wisest thing to do. It's going to be a heck of a challenge.
The thing is...if I don't I think I'm going to be very sad about it. Being 38, it's now or never. I'm not looking forward to pregnancy because that is gonna be pretty weird from just about every aspect. Nonetheless,my body is telling me "HAVE ONE NOW." (yes, my body does talk in capital letters).
I want to love, nurture and eventually launch a successful adult into the world...I think I can do that...not perfectly, but at least adequately.
Since I'm married to a transwoman, post-surgery and all...I need to find a donor...ohboy!
We're discussing options, the wife and I. I get to track ovulations now.
Today I walked into a shop and I heard the store owner say to the guy he was ringing up " Is that a woman or a man?" Then shrugged and said "whatever."
In my head I was thinking: Ah, I've pegged it!
I'm technically female, but...feel intersexed between the ears. I identify as Androgyne.
I think there may be testosterone gel on the agenda. I want to deepen my voice, embiggen my muscles, and if a little scraggly facial hair can be arranged that would be nice...I dont want to go all the way masculine, but now I feel too...female.
...And I thought I was going to do that this coming year.
But I finally admitted to myself after being in denial and fightihg it for years... I want to pop out a kid.
It is far from an intellectually-made decision, because it surely ain't the wisest thing to do. It's going to be a heck of a challenge.
The thing is...if I don't I think I'm going to be very sad about it. Being 38, it's now or never. I'm not looking forward to pregnancy because that is gonna be pretty weird from just about every aspect. Nonetheless,my body is telling me "HAVE ONE NOW." (yes, my body does talk in capital letters).
I want to love, nurture and eventually launch a successful adult into the world...I think I can do that...not perfectly, but at least adequately.
Since I'm married to a transwoman, post-surgery and all...I need to find a donor...ohboy!
We're discussing options, the wife and I. I get to track ovulations now.
Today I walked into a shop and I heard the store owner say to the guy he was ringing up " Is that a woman or a man?" Then shrugged and said "whatever."
In my head I was thinking: Ah, I've pegged it!
Now the question is: Do YOU want this child, or is it that your body is insisting that it feels it needs to reproduce. This is an important question, as it can change just how much you'll love & care about a child you would have.
I guess another question is: Does your wife want a child as well? Parenthood is a not a solo process. It takes 2 parents to successfully raise a child, and it's best to not put this on your spouse if she doesn't want to be a mom.
I know these are questions you've probably already asked, just thought it might be nice to hear it from a trans-mom who's been down that road. My wife & I have two wonderful boys, and I wouldn't trade parenthood for the world! But I know not everyone craves parenthood. I've always loved children, and knew I would be a decent parent. Having a child cause you feel you 'need' to have one, not that you 'really' want to have one, is not the best intentions on parenthood.
Take care!
The whole thing is such a big, scary challenge, is all...and my parents basically guaranteed I'm going to be in and out of therapy for the rest of my life-they did an atrocious job all around of raising me.
I'm pretty sure I can do better, I've worked on myself a lot.
I would have figured out I was androgyne years earlier if my dad had not been ...well, evil.
The only thing I dislike about presenting in a rather masculine fashion...is looking more like him...He was physically and sexually abusive. On bad days I look in the mirror and see him... It's creepy.