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Some advice, please?

Uric
Uric

Hi, I'm a 17 year old trans male. I'm graduating high school soon, and I came out to my dad recently.. He pretty much told me that it's just a phase and that he knows best, told me that whoever supports me is pretty much "the devil in disguise" (He's not even that religious) and he also told me that I'm not a guy and that no matter what I do I never will be one. Hearing what he said to me shattered my heart completely, I had told him before that I was and he just told me to give it time and that I'm "too feminine" so he can't really see me ever being a guy and that I should research more about everything. So I did, and the more I researched, the happier I got and the more I was certain. I even had a moment where I cried over my body and how much I hated it like this... I'm graduating soon and I don't really know where to go since I'm sure the rest of my family will react the same and I don't really want to end up homeless, but if it comes down to that just to be happy and be myself.. I might. I'm also beginning to doubt myself now, deep down I know I'm a man but I'm confused and lost now, I don't really know anymore.

Terriw
Terriw
Hi. Im sorry about what your dad said. He just needs more knowledge about it. .Have you talked to a therapist. That would be the first step. Are a support group near you.
Uric
Uric
I haven't really talked much about it to anyone, I plan on talking more to my psychiatrist about things once I see her again which should be next month on the 12th. And I haven't really looked much into places around me since I'm pretty stuck where I am now.
Terriw
Terriw
Hi it good you coming out early in your life . Just keep looking and keep studying up on source. I have been hiding it all my life. And it has runt a lot of stuff for me I wish you good luck on your journey. .
Uric
Uric
Thank you, I've left a message for my grandmother as well. She has yet to reply but I'm hoping for the best and expecting the worse. I no longer want to feel miserable and I want to be happy and look forward to the future. I hope things are good for you as well.
brill3reess
brill3reess
Hey. Im a 16 yr old trans guy. I think we got a lot in common, i can't come out to my mom cause I'm scared shell kick me out. I know what its like to be confused and afraid. Message me if you want to talk
killerkeithstar
killerkeithstar
Thats exactly what my dad told me... and anytime I bring anything up about it he shuts me down and gets really mad at me... but my problem is that I am a freshman in high school. and I feel exactly like you do omg. The good thing for me is that I am going to a military academy next year, and I am going to live on campus because the school it to far away from home.
Uric
Uric
I've decided to just not mention it to him anymore, I'll be graduating within a couple of weeks and still haven't decided on where I'll move to but I'll no longer live with him anymore. I can't say I have a lot of people supporting me since I haven't really told anyone except for a few friends who seem really supportive for the most part. It's hard being told things like that and having support, even if it's a little, has helped me a lot. Overall, I hope things go well for you in the academy.