Transgender Support Group

This community is here to support and help the large population of transgender people. If you or anyone you know identify as transgender, this is the place to share your feelings and experiences and speak with others who are going through similar things in their lives.

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BabyEvan 02/27/2018

Hey, everybody.

So I tried to tell my dad that I needed gender therapy, and that it was very important.

He brushed it off, and was like, 'how are you gonna find the money and ride to that?'

So i'm just gonna assume that he thinks it's not important/necessary, and i'll have to find the money and ride to it if I wanted to go.

My mom is dead set on being judgemental on practically every choice (wearing male clothes is 'unacceptable', but when it came to me shaving my head, it was fine, because, 'who cares what anybody thinks? I just want you to be happy in the end.')

So I doubt she'll give me permission to go, because I once asked her if it was okay for me to take T shots (I explained what that was), and she freaked out. "No, NO NO! God, no! Why in the world would you ever think I would say yes to that?! You're my baby girl, my princess! Do that when you're out of the house, not here! Not under my roof!'

But if I did get permission to go, would it even be worth it?

I know that i'm trans, and my parents wouldn't let me start testosterone, so what would be the point of going?

Could my therapist talk to my parents, and tell them what was best for me?

Do you think that they could convince my parents that it's 'not a phase', and how important this is as part of my life?

WyndWytch 02/28/2018

put simple you have no choice. Any form of medical side elements you want to do will require therapy from a licensed mental health professional accompanied by recommendations from said specialist to allow the medical professional to know that you have had the appropriate evaluations and are of sound mind to make said judgements. Some places you can do "informed Consent" but those locations are generally looked down upon by most medical doctors and or surgeons, so you have to do EVERYTHING through that place cause other doctors wont accept it. So is it worth it, if you want to do the medical side of things than yes, it is. Now your parents cant stop you from doing anything at 18, I already said this in another post. That is the earliest you will be able to start hormones anyhow. You need to stay on them about it. Thing about this is they have known you as their daughter for how long? you now told them oh by the way that person you thought I was... totally not. That's a hard pill to swallow. You've known for a long time, they have not. you need to give them time to digest it. tell them about the depression and all that, stay on it make them see what their ignorance is doing to you. Eventually they are going to stop ignoring it. Fact is that you can look them in the eye and say, if you think its a phase prove it, send me to a specialist who is trained medically to make the diagnosis and if they say I am not, I wont ever bring it up again, if they say I am, you have to help me. Youre basically telling them to put up or shut up. that shows that they are in doubt and you are not.

andro-quest 03/02/2018

No therapy is never worth it. There's a reason the word 'therapist' can be separated into 'the rapist', just be the person you effin' are already and don't worry about your dad.

princesschattycathy 03/05/2018

A counselor or therapist can help with a variety of issues and what you tell them (with a few exceptions) is kept confidential even from your parents. You can start with talking to your school counselor, Your school may have a group which may be helpful to you and the school counselor may also be able to explain things to your parents to help them understand.
Eventually if you want to be able to take hormones or make any changes surgically you will need to have talked to a therapist or counselor.
Cathy -

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