Transgender Support Group
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Hey, my name was Oliva but I want it to be Lake ( I don't know, don't judge me). I am a 12 year who is turning 13 this month. Also I am secretly transgender but I still look kind of like a girl. I am scared that my famly and friends will not except me for being me. I am suicidal so Please Help Me!
Thanks, Lake
P.S I know 12 might be young but I came to this website for help not to brag.
Age has little to do with anything other than how much help you need from your parents. You will have to likely come out to them at osme point but you don't have to now. You wont need to come out to anyone until either you are flipping the switch to the other side fast OR you need something of them. You can ask friends to call you by a "nickname" of lake to try your name on. Just say you like it more than Olivia, you can ask your parents to let you see a therapist (have one in mind to give them the name of) for depression and in reality be going to them for gender stuff and depression, you can cut your hair short, wear whatever you want, its not a thing. There is so much you can do without telling anyone squat. What you cannot do is commit suicide. its completely and utterly the most stupid thing anyone can do. Trust me, I have had a lot of experience with it in my past. You are almost 13, the world is not an easy place and you are looking at a path that is a very hard one. You are going to need to be stronger than that. If you are seriously considering it then I recommend calling crisis line and getting talked abck to where your head needs to be. You have a lot of life left and a carp ton of options, so to end it now is horribly dumb. What you need to do here and now is get a therapist to help you accept you and keep your head straight and away from suicide, focus on school because you will need a good paying job to cover the expense of therapists, doctors, medications and surgeries, and go. Look up the Standards of Care from WPATH and read them, it will tell you what you are up against from the medical professional standpoint. Next is to relax. The fun thing about human chemistry is that estrogen is one of the recessive sex hormones, meaning most of what it will do at puberty can be reversed with testosterone. Not so much when you go from male to female, so there is another thing you have going for you. Also you can dress how you want, have your hair how you want and everything and no one is going to care. Its simply not a thing. There are so many options for you to be able to express who you are that you don't seem to see but the biggest factor is are you okay with being you. If your not then none of the rest of this matters. So again therapist. Don't be stupid and commit suicide please, it is a complete waste and accomplishes nothing for you. If you aren't just scared and feeling alone and really do want to off yourself then you need to call a crisis line immediately, if you are scared and feel alone and don't really want to die, then you have found a place to come and ask questions where there are lots of people who have gone through this stuff and can help. read through the posts. there are actually a few not far off from your age who are here asking for help. You will need to go the course though and that course is one you choose. don't cut it short.
I don't have any other advice than what was said other than I would never judge you I like the name Lake and I think your very brave to talk about how you feel I felt that way at 12 and am 53 and just saying it out loud now for the first time