Transgender Support Group
This community is here to support and help the large population of transgender people. If you or anyone you know identify as transgender, this is the place to share your feelings and experiences and speak with others who are going through similar things in their lives.
I'm worried. I have had some problems lately with my SRS. I've fallen in love with a girl (Denise) and I actually said I'd stay a man for her. When I thought back I realized I actually meant it. I don't know why I would be willing to, she makes me happy with who I am mentally and physically. I was going to go through with the SRS because I know I'm not supposed to be a man, but she makes me happy and safe. I just need some advice on this, I'm only 19 and I'd like to chalk this up to 'first love'. Someone please ask for my personal email to talk or reply. I'd rather talk with email than on a message board.
In my opinion, Gender is a state of mind and is not strictly either male of female in an individual. There is a spectrum. For me that means my state of being - of my mind if you like, has both male and female characteristics. I could be comfortable in a male body or in a female body. If I were born female, I might still have discomfort with being strictly female. Gender identity wise, I am in between. I am I will keep the body I was born with, and still experience and express my gender as my mood fits. There is discomfort with identifying strictly as male. That does not mean for me that I should be female. I can just be my Self and enjoy my mixed gender identity. Some transgendered people intuitively identify so strongly with the opposite gender that they need to have SRS to feel whole. It is not necessarily true of all Transgendered people.
This is not medical or psychological advise. Just a personal observation from my own insights. Like I said talk about this with a therapist and or psychiatrist.