Transgender Support Group

This community is here to support and help the large population of transgender people. If you or anyone you know identify as transgender, this is the place to share your feelings and experiences and speak with others who are going through similar things in their lives.

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Rainspot
Rainspot

Hey all! Fairly new here. I'm interested in talking about similar experiences. I've been really focusing on how I feel lately, and for a long while I feel like I've been sitting in the backseat of my own life. I'm trying to decode a lot of emotions I'm going through, but I'm not sure how well I'm doing.


I have always felt very masculine, and when I was in primary and secondary school I would love to make a big show of how much of a tomboy I was. Looking back I've always felt like an inbetweener, and I wouldn't mind when a teacher or a store clerk would call me a boy. Even now, as a 19 y/o, I love feeling masculine in front of others. It makes me relaxed to dress male. Sometimes I even think my voice is wrong, like something's wrong with my nose and my voice is too high and nasal. I'm not really sure how to go about this. I feel like all this means something, but talking to myself feels so cyclical.


I feel that if I was transgender, it would feel so much more cut-and-dry and simpler than how this feels. I don't mind a good self-discovery session, but going over this has made me rather stressed the last few weeks. I feel like if I just had a definition or a word for how I feel it would be easier to work out.


Does this hit home to anybody else? Am I in the wrong support group??

Raffael
Raffael
Hi! I feel pretty close to how you described it. I feel more comfortable myself and being seen male/masculine and am very uncomfortable in my current situation and body. I have been thinking about being transgender for years now but I feel confused because I am so unsure and struggle so much. I feel like I am going crazy by the constant argument with myself in my head and it feels like my life is just going on without me. I would love to discuss this with you to hopefully make things more clear for you and also for me
LadySheila
LadySheila
Hello Rainspot. Being transgender is different for everyone. It's a long journey, and for some it comes across clear and strong, while for others it lurks in the background and remains quiet. I transitioned over 40 years ago, and for me it came easier than with many others. I had always looked very feminine and was always mistaken for being a girl. I had no problem when people thought I was a girl, it just felt right for me. However, when I had to inform them that I was a male it made me sick to my stomach and totally embarrassed. In short, being seen as a girl just felt right and normal for me. Considering that I already looked so much like a female, my transition was easy. The hardest part was finding a doctor for my hormones and making my legal name change. I think that you have to take time to really look within yourself and ask yourself what do you want for yourself in life and what will make you happy? You have to dig deep and ask yourself some important questions. Does the thought of living your life as a female make you sad and depressed? How do you feel when people refer to you as a female, and how do you feel when people refer to you as a male? What do YOU see when you look in the mirror, and how do you like the person you see?
Jessemp
Jessemp
Hey buddy. This sounds exactly like my experience in school pretty much all my life as far as i can remember but I never did anything about it cause I was too scared. I now live as FtM and im 17. If you want to talk tome or have any qs message me on insta @jess.murrayprice ill be happy to talk to you