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JND1984
JND1984

Hello everbody, my name is JD and I'm 34 years old and ever since before the age of 5 I felt like I should have been a female. I was diagnosed with gender dysphoria by my therapist in April of this year, but my mother does not accept the diagnosis of gender dysphoria. My late father took legal guardianship of me when I turned 18 in 2002, but when my father suffered from Alzheimer's disease in 2015 my mother took over legal guardianship of me. After my uncle and my father passed, I felt like I had to reveal my true feelings related to gender dysphoria, and that's when my mother said that I am abnormal, stupid, and that she was going to kick me out when she is my caregiver due to the fact that i'm also autistic. I feel that I am defenseless against my mother because of the name calling and the religion that she forces upon me as well as the way that she and her friends treat me. What should I do?  Does anybody have any advice for me? 

Cadelliswhoiwanttobe
Cadelliswhoiwanttobe
Talk to a school counselor or teacher. What you are sounds like emotional abuse. Child service could get involved.
Cadelliswhoiwanttobe
Cadelliswhoiwanttobe
BTWs I am Cadell and also am MTF.
WyndWytch
WyndWytch
You didn't specify your age, but if you are in school then yes what cadell said is a good start, you also should have some form of state appointed help due to the autism if you registered it wth the state for her to be your "caregiver" in which case you can also report it there too. Both in the case of child abuse and in the case of abuse of an adult with a disability, they are serious SERIOUS crimes that will get you all sorts of crap. In your case if you are a minor you can report it and they will find you a foster home to care for you and your mom will just be out of luck. In the case you are adult and in the USA there are state programs that will help you get housing and the care you need. You are far from trapped and under law don't have to tolerate that. Now you listed a diagnosis? You have a therapist then that has said you are indeed Gender dysphoric? If not then be cautions in stating that. I say that because the ONLY one who can actually diagnose it is a licensed professional. If you use that people will assume you do when you are seeking help and if they find you don't have that it puts them in a bad place. So if you don't have a therapist who has diagnosed it, then you feel that way, not are diagnosed that way. I know it seems stupid but when working with government or professional organizations those two are very well defined and which side you are on determines a lot.
mrblue
mrblue
I transitioned at about age forty (hormones only & socially. I have never been sorry. My partner at the time (another FTM) said he might have leave me if I did, I did it anyway but it took him years to accept it. The only person you responsible for you is you. This may just be something she has to work through, If she can't work thru it, then she is the one responsible for you. Don't let her stand in the way and prevent you from feeling happy that you are free, A group home should also be a possibility. There are people here who will support you, and help you :grow into your true self. Keep posting if you need support or venting..