Transgender Support Group

This community is here to support and help the large population of transgender people. If you or anyone you know identify as transgender, this is the place to share your feelings and experiences and speak with others who are going through similar things in their lives.

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Giftedtouch25 11/26/2017

Hi my name is B. I was born into this female body not by choice. I am 31 years old. I have been having thoughts for most of my life that of a man. I have never really looked at myself as a female but as a male. I came out to my mother as a lesbian when I was 14 years old that to start that didn’t go at all. With that being said I am terrified still at 31 to tell my mother that I am feeling more as man because when I did she said I was doing it for attention and that is not the case at all. I don’t even like calling myself a lesbian because I am just attracted to straight women because again I feel like a straight man. This battle is becoming harder and harder to suppress and is causing me to become depressed. I hate my breast I hate this body. I felt like a man most of my life just never acted on except when it came to dressing in drag as I performed as a drag king for five years. Do people really fight this for so many years before they act on it? Please any feeedback on how to move forward without hurting my mom or adoptive sisters. Most of my friends and co workers are supporting me

Gutted 11/26/2017

You are 31. Stop listening to your mother and wasting your life trapped in the wrong body. You have a right to be who you were meant to be. Of course you would not feel like a lesbian if you are a trans man who prefers straight women. You are finally pulling the pieces together. Why stop or stumble. I say go full speed ahead. Don't let one closed minded person throw you off track.

Have you discussed your feelings about trans with a therapist? If not, that is the best place to start. Jump on over to Susan's and explore if you haven't already. Keep us posted and ask whatever you need alone the way.

Giftedtouch25 11/26/2017

Wow thanks so much Gutted! You are right I am 31 and it’s time to fulfil my happiness and be whole I finally was meant to be . Thank you for your encouraging words. My friend said the same thing about Therapy so I will be looking into that this week. I will also check out susans

Gutted 11/26/2017

Glad you are headed towards becoming the person you were always meant to be. I added a hot link for Susans. I love that place. We are interested in learning more about you, so don't be a stranger!

https://www.susans.org

aneptune 11/26/2017

I know how you feel, luckily unlike some people who haven't come out as trans, you are old enough to make your own decisions. Go be yourself, because in my experience it is easier to be hated for who you are than loved for who you aren't.

Giftedtouch25 11/27/2017

Thanks aneptune. It’s definitely time to be my true self despite my mother and others. It takes so much more to be fake than to be my true happy self. I appreciate all the love and support!

Giftedtouch25 11/27/2017

It also sucks because I know how I feel but people don’t take my thoughts seriously because I think like a man and look like a female because of my chest ughhh frustrating

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