I completely understand. This just recently happened to me as well. The first thing I ask myself is what am I willing to handle. Am I willing to have a wife instead of a husband or not. I also did a lot of research on the topic of transitioning and what its like for a person to go through this. Also you need to know what your husband plans to do. Does he want hormones, to dress, or surgery. Also I know everyone told me therapy. I was very unwilling to go to therapy when me spouse asked me and that probably is one thing that is hurting our chances of making our relationship work. I am now in therapy and it is helping some.

Thanks so much for responding. I read your posts recently and I understand what you are going through as well and I hope you'll be able to reach out to your husband and try to work things out. It seems you are open to exploring this journey with him, and that's huge. I'm not sure if I'm o.k. with having a wife or not, it's tough because I'm concerned about the physical and sexual aspect of things, how that may change if he transitions, including his behavior that may change too and if this will all strengthen or weaken our marriage. I have thought about it, knowing him a good part of his life as male, then having the benefit of experiencing being married to a female, that it could be a positive and eye-opening experience. I probably will be doing more research on the process of transitioning myself. I feel the more information I read on this, the more aware I am of this issue. My husband is looking at possibly doing hormones, not surgery. He has been dressing up as a female (makeup, wig, clothes, etc.) He recently has been going to a therapist to help him sort out his feelings but I will be going to therapy myself along with joining a support group. My husband will be joining a support group in the next few weeks as well. I feel my husband and I both need it. I am hoping the therapy will benefit the both of us and our marriage. I'm glad therapy has been helping for you.