So the first thing is that it is none of their business. If you get asked by someone who has no right asking, just tell them flat to their face it is none of their business. If they press it then tell them to prove they are what they say they are first. I mean after all fair is fair right? Secondly, where the body is certainly an issue, you have to be who you are and remember that the body is merely a shell. Hard as that is in time you can fix the rest. I know this probably isn't much help, but you will be passing just find in time, specially if you decide to get on testosterone. *huggles*

Its always hard being mis gendered, but try not to worry about it to much. Passing will come with time and just because a few people notice, it doesn't mean your not passing. It becomes a "blurred line" in a way because if you are successfully passing to you will never know it.

As for the people that bombard you with questions, don't let that get to you! Most people are good people, but the few that are going to be jerks are sure to standout. Its kind of like customer service; you have those people that will ALWAYS find something wrong. My guess is that a year from now you could look like a male in every way and if that girl knows its you, she will still bug you about it. Such is life right? Be happy with yourself, tell everyone else to clean out a toilet (best i could come up with and still not curse, just make sure its a really dirty toilet at least).

A good friend of mine told me that, " At the end of the day you are stuck with yourself ". People can complement you all day long, you can be passing perfectly fine, but when the sun sets all your left with is who you are. Thats all that matters. The interesting thing is, all the pretty girls and handsome guys have to deal with the same thing. And if they base their happiness on looking like a model and bug people who don't look like one, they will get theirs in due time.

For the record, I really don't know what the girls were talking about. If thats you in the profile picture, I would certainly say your passing just fine! What was it that they wanted, A full beard and buzz cut? Then again, maybe they would think I'm passing as a girl too? and I wouldn't even have to wear any make up.

Be happy, sorry if this didn't help much. Just don't forget to smile :)

- Holly

Thank you everyone for the feedback. I really appreciate it. It means a lot.

Sometimes people are just nosey & don't realize how insensitive & cruel their questions are. Other times the repeated demanding questions are a form of bullying. Try to decide whether the person is just inquisitive (in which case you can try to educate them), or is hostile and being deliberately offensive.
One way to respond is to ask the person why they need to know your gender. (this usually makes the nosey ones stop to think; they may realize that they are being inappropriately intrusive, and apologize. Then you can educate them.)
Bullies usually respond with some dumb or hateful comment. At which point you can either cuss them back, or tell them that they are an ignorant, insensitive bully, and your gender is none of their business. Then walk away from them, DON'T continue the conversation. Remember that bullies are basically insecure people who make themselves feel better by picking on people who they perceive as weaker. They are the defective ones, so don't let them make you feel bad about yourself!
Hugs & a pat on the back to you!