I truly understand,

I just came out to one person, cause I been in the closet. I knew I was transgender since I was 5, just I was raised and grew up in a town that hates people like that and they think it's wrong. So I tried to Barry it, cause I just did not want to be hated! But I am at the same point as you, I just came out and I don't know where to start.

Gender Identity Clinics (GICs) are a good to look into because they usually provide counselling, resources for groups and information about surgeons who do different types of procedures, all withing the area. You don't have to have any surgeries you don't want. If they recommend it you can turn it down. The therapists may also be qualified to prescribe hormones if you feel you will benefit from them. Groups are also good for not feeling alone/ feeling 100% supported. I don't know about fees and insurance though, sorry.
It's very right to not tell people you are [insert identity] if you think people will harass you for it. Open or even subtle trans phobia may make you scared to go outside or very anxious when being outside (from personal experience). Make sure you are safe. Friends who affirm it are very good. You don't have to talk about it with them but if they respect that you want to try out pronouns/names etc and accommodate to that then it feels wonderful.
It's normal to be confused or not know where to start. Modern European and American societies do not readily provide gender non-conforming resources yet. They'll provide sex-ed but only in the form of hetero-normative styles usually. Good luck in finding a GIC that is hopefully close to you (mine's an hour 1/2 long expensive train and bus journey away *sigh* so I'm finding groups to go to near me) and hope you feel okay.

Hello sweetie I am going through the same thing as you only I'm 26 years old and have been going through it since I was 5 as well that's when I first started wearing panties and all. I know how hard it is. And I am here to talk to if you need help. The first thing I would do to get help for this is if you have medical coverage then seek a counselor for this issue and they will get you started if you cannot get a counselor then I would get a job and there are sites where you can purchase estradiol pills for estrogen and testosterone blockers although I don't recommend doing this it is the rout I am having to take for the time being.

You are certainly not alone. It's not an easy process. I suppose I've joined this group for exactly the same reasons you've mentioned.